Lonely. Anyone else?

[wonderwhat]

I’ve been married lots of years and things have never been easy. He’s a difficult, domineering and emotionally unavailable man. Everything’s sweet as long as he’s getting his own way. Our lives are dictated by him and his wants and needs. I’m so incredibly lonely. I always thought I’d end up with a friend. A soul mate. Instead I’m old and flabby and worn down by the constant bickering. I’ve ended up far from home and friends because I followed him. I want to leave but I’m so low and scared. I just need a handhold please

Hand hold and a hug. You sound deeply unhappy. I know it’s probably huge step but maybe now is the time to leave.

You sound terribly unhappy, I'm sorry. You can leave if you want to, just take your time and plan how to exit in a way that works for you

I feel like I know what you mean. I've pretty much decided to leave DH but I've realised that I don't have a good friend to talk to. I've been not able to go out in the evening for too long and my friends have drifted away.

Are you still on touch with your family and friends?

Oh no I'm sorry to hear this. It's not too late for happiness and fun!! Can you start planning and sort out finances and practical things, I know it's not easy but that needs to be done. Hope you have some family to help, I'm sure they would want to when they know how unhappy you are. Good luck xx

Unless you want to be in this situation till the day you die, you have to be brave and leave him.

Your life sounds utterly miserable. What is keeping you there?