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If your husband had an affair, did he continue sleeping with you whilst he was being unfaithful?

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HennyPennyHorror · 20/05/2019 23:11

My friend suspected her DH was having an affair...he has before years ago. Then she had sex with him and said "He can't be having an affair because last time, he didn't want to sleep with me"

Is this true? Is this a thing? I think she's being naive as the signs of an affair are pretty strong.

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Waterandlemonjuice · 20/05/2019 23:14

She’s very naive. My husband hasn’t had an affair (AFAIK) but various friends who have slept with married men report that of course they’re still having sex with their wives. There have sometimes been children to prove it.

pikapikachu · 20/05/2019 23:15

Yes. He tried to act the same so we continued to have sex 3 times a week.

pikapikachu · 20/05/2019 23:16

He could be taking viagra this time?

lifegoes · 20/05/2019 23:18

The last guy I was with (who told me he was single) I found out after, he slept with his gf came and met me, slept with me twice (morning and night) then went back and slept with her the next day. So yes it's possible sorry

Rhiannon87 · 20/05/2019 23:24

Completely possible Im afraid. My ex husband used to do it to me.

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HennyPennyHorror · 20/05/2019 23:25

It's an awful thing. Being close to someone and seeing her go through so many ups and downs in her relationship. She keeps holding on...even though he acts like a complete twat a lot of the time. :( All I can do is commiserate when he's an arse....then when she feels it's going well, I have to "celebrate" that with her.

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lifegoes · 20/05/2019 23:26

That must be awful @HennyPennyHorror its so hard to sit on the outside and no doubt he's very manipulative. So just be careful he doesn't try and turn her against you. You are a good friend

SuzieQ10 · 20/05/2019 23:31

Yes, but less frequently.

SadSausage44 · 21/05/2019 03:14

Yes

vampirethriller · 21/05/2019 06:53

We weren't married but yes he did. We were ttc, now I've got the baby, he's got the other woman.

Prudho · 21/05/2019 07:08

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Fireandflames666 · 21/05/2019 07:18

My ex partner did yes, although he denies this still (o have proof he did). I made sure I had std checks after that.

LizziesTwin · 21/05/2019 07:23

I have two friends going through divorces right now.

One husband had an affair for nearly 10 years. They had sex throughout.

The other husband had sex with prostitutes during their marriage (& before but she only found out afterwards) she conceived two children during this relationship. She kept getting cystitis & thrush. I took her to a sexual health clinic and she had infections, had to go on antibiotics.

Neither woman had any idea of their husband’s infidelities as both men traveled extensively for work & had well paid jobs which meant they could afford their double lives. Both men lied to their wives about how much they earned.

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