Don’t know if I’m unhappy or just panicking?

[FarahFawcet]

Been with DP for almost 10 years. Got engaged last year and getting married next year.
I thought marriage was the missing piece of the puzzle. We have 2 beautiful children together.
But lately, I’m feeling ‘twitchy’. I work in a bar and have had my head turned by a customer who comes in once a week. He’s lovely. We get on so we’ll and just chat the entire time he’s in. He’s been coming in for the past year or so and only added on Facebook last week.
Well since then we’ve been chatting constantly, he’s phoned me a few times. Bumped into him and his kid last week at the park and chatted while our kids played together. It was nice.
We’ve both said we have a little soft spot for eachother but have both said that nothing will ever happen-obviously- because I’m with someone. But I can’t get this bloke out of my head!! And he’s said similar about me. What the actual hell?!
Can someone please talk some goddam sense into me before I drive myself insane!

Bump...

You need to avoid this man. He's too much temptation.
You have to ask yourself though---what do you want to do? Are you happy in your relationship? Do you want to get married?

I don’t know if I’m happy? Probably not. Unhappy enough to leave DP? I don’t know?

Distance yourself from him for a while and gauge how you are feeling. You cannot assess anything until you have some space from him. Then see how things are with your DP and whether the relationship is really what you want.

Perhaps this other man is an escape route from something deep down you are uncertain about. Or maybe you will realise DP is exactly what you want. But please don't have an affair.

Im not going to have an affair.
We’ve blocked eachother on SM last night. Hating not chatting anymore 🤦🏼‍♀️

Put the effort into your relationship, OP. If after a few months you have a good reason to leave your partner, do so then. Don't do it just because you fancy this other guy.

I am trying to put effort in. Have been for some time. DP was looking at holidays last minth for just the two of us. I was made up and so excited. Asked him numerous times if we could definitely afford it and he assured me we could. Now, he says we can’t. I’m annoyed with him and myself for allowing myself to get excited and look forward to something.
Nothing major has happened since then to mean we couldn’t now afford it, but could then. Feel like he was just stringing me along. He’s done similar before