My 5 year relationship with my fiance ended in April (engaged late last year and venue all booked), we have lived together for 4 years and recently bought somewhere.
He became distant in the last few weeks and it got to the point i almost walked out a week or so before we broke up but he convinced me to stay. The night we broke up we had a massive row where he said i didnt love him enough, we argued too much and i was not happy. A couple days later we met up and he said he didnt want to try at the relationship because he had been trying for months. He said he had had concerns but didnt want to leave for my sake. But he then said it was because i loved him too much and he needed to be alone but knew this would mean he was miserable for a long time. He admitted he had got close to someone at work and felt that spark that he felt we were missing which made him doubt us and listen to his concerns. This person is married and he does not want to be with them. Since we broke up hes been a mess. Its like i broke up with him! He has been very touchy when we are together and got really upset when he knew i was throwing things away ready for the eventual house sale. He has said he will always love me and find me attractive and that he was happy right until the end. When i ask for more of an explanation he can't give me one. I have told him we cant see each other or talk unless its about the house (going strong for 2 weeks) and he was distraught at this. He has said he thinks it is too soon to sell but will do it for me.