After years of posting on threads like this, I really shouldn’t be surprised at the vigour with which some people will defend something so objectionable, and yet I always am.
Let’s break it down:
- Boys accessing hardcore porn at a young age
- Girls feeling pressured into sex acts popularised by pornography, or removing all of their pubic hair, or sending naked photos of themselves
- Normalising filming sexual encounters between young people and these being shared, by those too young to fully understand the consequences of this
- Nearly half of boys saying that porn had given them ideas about the type of sex they want to try
- Repeated viewing causes densensitiation
- Massive increase in erectile dysfunction among young men, alongside loss of sensation, loss of interest in partnered sex, delayed ejaculation, lower levels of arousal, etc
- Extreme / gonzo porn becoming mainstream
- Being able to access hardcore porn 24/7
- Being able to search very specifically for specific acts and specific types of women; to find an enormous amount of content that plays into exactly what you want to see, and to do this as often as you want (this I think is the most damaging and dangerous part)
- The fact that porn is accessed generally way before first sexual experiences, and frequently (see chart from NSPCC)
- The fact that much of the content seen is about male enjoyment at the expense of a woman’s comfort and autonomy
- The misogynistic nature of most mainstream porn, and the fact that a woman’s humiliation / degradation isn’t just present but is actually the aim in many cases
- The fact that female pleasure, orgasm, sexual acts performed primarily for the enjoyment of women don’t feature in mainstream porn
- Users who don’t understand that porn is not a requirement for masturbation
- Women who get divorced and start OLD reporting that choking, spitting, face slapping, facials, anal sex etc are expected or even done with no prior warning or discussion
- Stories of women who’ve left the industry which demonstrate that at least some of the content people are masturbating to is footage of intoxicated women being abused, tortured and traumatised
- Not being able to tell if you’re wanking to footage of a woman who’s enjoying her job or one who is being abused, drugged, trafficked, and not using it anyway
- Increasing amounts of vocal misogyny online and in the real world
All these factors taken together, how can you possibly deny that there’s a problem?
This is not the porn that was available on VHS tapes hidden under a dad’s bed when I was younger. And even if it were, being able to watch that 24/7 probably wouldn’t have been good either. I believe it’s the easy access to very hardcore content at all times, as often as you wish, that’s the biggest issue.
I had a brief relationship with a guy who watched a lot of porn. He told me that he didn’t like “fake tits” and didn’t want to watch porn with women who had them, but they’re sort of ubiquitous.
In order to find porn containing women with unenhanced breasts, he had to search for “saggy”
In order to find porn containing women who weren’t extremely thin, he had to search for “fat”
In order to find porn containing women who had some pubic hair, he had to search “hairy”
He told me - in order to find porn featuring women who looked like me (I was 20 and a size 10 and waxed my bikini line at that point in time) he was searching for saggy, fat and hairy.
Porn is undoubtedly reshaping the way we view women and their bodies, sex, relationships between the sexes. I don’t believe anyone who’s seen it can believe that’s not the case.