Has this ever worked for you?

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Just wondering if anyone here has ever gone through a break in their relationship and then got back together successfully?

I really am intrigued by this as clearly there’s a reason why there was a break in the first place. But, do relationships ever go through it and then pick back up where they left?

And...

Can ex’s be friends?

I personally think "breaks" are just a soft way to split up. one party generally wants the break more than the other and the other is hopeful it will work itself out.

I haven't met anyone who'se had a break and then got back together.

Ex's can be friends though. I'm friends with my ex from 20 years ago and we were very serious. We're both happy with our spouses though.

Me an my partner broke up 2yrs into our relationship, and got back, 13yrs on we are still together and have a gorgeous 18months old! X

Myself and my partner got back together after an almost three year break.

We have since gotten married (though mostly in order to be able to relax while living in the ME) and had a baby. The baby-having had certainly challenged the relationship (!) however it would challenge any relationship.

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I don't think exes can be friends in most cases unfortunately.

Even if the couple themselves can manage it (which they usually can't) the new partners tend to be uncomfortable and try to out an end to it one way or another.

DH and I were friends, dated, broke up, remained friends and then got back together.

We were very young and decided to originally break up as I was going to uni and he was joining the forces so thought that it better to make a clean break before we went out separate ways.

As we were both part of a wider group of friends we stayed in touch, both had other relationships and about 3-4 years later I ended up moving to the same town he lived in for a new job. We got together shortly after, we've now been married nearly 10 years and have two lovely DC.

I think it can work depending on the reasons for the original break up. DH and I needed to have that time apart to grow up and have individual experiences. I think if we had broken up because of different reasons, such as opposing views on politics/ morals or incompatible personalities I wouldn't have bothered getting back together.

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How was it getting with someone that’s in the forces? I’m going through a situation with someone that is in the forces and I believe it would be good to get some insight on it. I’m not sure if people can private message on here but I’d love to have a chat!

Ex's can be friends but it's best if it is a somewhat remote relationship as in friendly when meet for big events in DC's lives. School events, big birthdays etc but not making time to meet exclusively.

Moving on is easier if there is some distance even though contact around the DC is necessary

We met at 18 and had a break for a year at 19 then back together for nearly 20 years. I think I knew he was the one but felt we were both too young to settle down so we split but couldn't be without each other really. I think it can work but only in that sort of situation where maybe circumstances or distances make the relationship too hard to manage but once those circumstances improve you can make a go of it. If the break is purely to shag around an dsee what else is available then it will probably do too much damage to recover from.

My mum and dad were together from the age of 17. Split up for a year in their early 20's, both went travelling, and got back together a year later. They stayed together for another 30 years until my mum passed away.

Exes can be friends but sometimes that's just not possible.