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Finally leaving emotionally abusive ex!

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dolphin00 · 20/05/2019 01:00

I have been on and off with him for 7 years! I’ve just turned 29 and refuse to waste any more of my life on this man!

He’s been emotionally abusive in so many ways and although he acts like he’s stupid he is a huge manipulator! He turns everything around on me and everything is my fault, even when it comes to him cheating on me. My birthday just gone he didn’t buy me as much as a card neither did he for Valentine’s Day, Christmas or our anniversary (not that the day of the devil is anything to celebrate 😂) I just don’t understand why I’ve gone back time and time again? I need to know why so I can stop repeating the same cycle over and over again. I’ve been reading about addictive relationships and this is exactly what it is like, he is the cause of the pain and the only one who can numb the pain after (until the cracks show again). I don’t think I would never go near a guy like him again and at least I know the warning signs I’ve dated some amazing guy in between him but they always seemed too ‘nice’ or too ‘boring’ one I really regret who was an amazing person and how engaged to someone I know through I friend. I just want to date a kind, caring and loving man that I can build a family and a life with I feel I’m getting to old for all this s**t!

Really annoyed with myself for wasting so much of my life waiting for and trying to change him.

Don’t know why I’ve posted here supposed I just wanted to vent to someone :)

OP posts:
goose1964 · 20/05/2019 01:33

I spent 2 1/2 years in an emotionally abusive relationship when I was 18. It's only thanks to mumsnet that I finally understood why I felt so damaged afterwards (more than 30 years later).

I married DH about 4 years after that relationship and he's the complete opposite. In fact I suspect he's the sort of person you'd call boring. He's been a pretty good husband even if we do argue a fair bit.

I'd like to say congratulations on getting this man out of your life.

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