0 Sex Drive.

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Love my husband. He's gorgeous and a perfect dad to our two kiddies. I've been questioning this for a while, and wanted to get some advice or insight as I don't really know where else to go!
We are in our mid twenties, perhaps younger than the norm to have a family set up already but we're happy, both working and generally all good.
Our only problem is he rarely wants to have sex. It seems to have been this way since we had our DS 2.5 years ago. He can go weeks and weeks without being passionate with me, unless I nag him about it. And I hate having to nag, but I also need that loving intimacy with my husband, it's never about the actual act for me. I've asked before why he seemingly never wants to have sex, and he assures me he finds me attractive, he doesn't have any problems downstairs, and when we do (I'm talking once every 2/3 weeks) get down and dirty he says hes very satisfied and there isn't anything he wants to experiment with. Although it always seems like chore for him.
Is it me, or is it actually possible for a man in his 20's to genuinely not be into having sex? Am I too demanding? Makes me feel a bit rubbish at times.

My DP is the same. That’s just the way he is, doesn’t need very much. Every few weeks maybe, though we’ve gone longer in the past. It’s been hard in the past not to take it personally or feel unattractive, I got very upset at time, but I accept him as he is now. Sex drives vary wildly for men and women, we’re all different. The idea that men all want sex all the time is harmful to all. Communication is really important though, you both have a right to happy and fulfilling sex lives that meet your needs, and if you’re the partner that wants more you’re the one that will be compromising most.

It's definitely possible, my ex had a very low sex drive at age 28 which ultimately ended the relationship. It's really tough and can make you feel really crap.

I'm glad it's not just me being dramatic!

Went out with someone in my late teens (his early 20's) who had a really low sex drive, got back together again for a year a decade later and totally different. He was completely aware of the fact but had no idea why he had a better sex drive. Annoyingly he was better at it when he wanted it less often.

I have the same difficulties. I have a high sec drive my DP could literally go months without, Ive thought of ending the relationship as it really gets to me abd make me question myself. But he has so many good points that make up for it! It’s really really hard tho

From my experience, the Male sex drive increases as they get older.
DH is far more in to it now in his late 50’s as opposed to his 20’s when he was like your DH.
All men though are different