Handhold: divorce

[Whyohwhydo]

I really need some advice about how those of you who have left initially brought this up With Your partner.

I’m living with anxiety about it so it just has to done. The longer I leave it the worse it Will become. I am not interested in couples counselling as I really don’t see a future for us.

We have 3 children and I’m just very scared and worried.

Oh bless you....I recently told my STBXH that I’d had enough and it wasn’t what I wanted anymore. If I’m honest at that point I wasn’t sure I’d go through with it, but once I’d said it I couldn’t go back I felt a sense of relief and excitement for the future. Looking back I realise I’d put a sticking plaster on our marriage for a good few years, when really we aren’t meant to be together. There was some low level shitty behaviours but ultimately I just realised I didn’t love him anymore and we wanted different things in life. The divorce is in progress waiting for the consent order and Mesher order to be put in place and then my next stage of life begins. I have 4 children so similar to you