Hi everyone,
Been thinking about posting here just to get some perspective in my life and help me move forward.
So basically a year ago i fell out with my in laws. Started off with DH 19 year old neice. She decided to just ignore me. I would say hello etc n she would repeatedly ignore in the presence of her mother. I told DH n in the end he advised i just dont speak to her. So i did and then it became awkward for DH to talk to her etc and it became difficult at gatherings. DH spoke to his sis n she flipped saying her daughter isnt well. She basically wears thick glasses or lenses.
Anyway moving on a few months SIL is now brewing inside and a massive eruption happens on nyt before mil n fil holiday between me n SILs. Me n DH fought the next day. He refused to visit them whilst mil n fil abroad for few months. We joined them on jollies and came home and all was well with us. Sils were seething. Anyway fast forward a little mil was not pleased with fall out. She then spoke to DH n then i was forced to make an effort with them. I also found out i was pregnant during this time and me n DH were in a bad place. He became a monster under the strain of his family n me. During this 9 month period his mum told him to buy a house 2 mins away from her n due to pressures he felt n need to keep them happy he did. I was livid n still am. House is under renovation.
Since then i cannot stand in laws n sometimes DH for not being able to stand up for our relationship. He did sometimes stand up for me but not always.
So now i have a beautiful baby boy. Me n DH r in good place n we are both fab parents. We make weekly visits to in laws. The issue is i just cant stand them. MIL N SILs n Neice. I come home n feel rubbish. I pick up on everything they say or do and analyse n live it again n again in my head. I have imaginary convos n play out situations for ages n hve to tell myself to stop. Of course DH knows nothing about this. I cant stand their sudden change in behaviour to play happy families.
Please be kind. Any advise on how to switch off minute i leave their house. I just think it all started because of a stupid girl who was not happy with my marriage to her uncle n her mother did not reign her rudeness in when dh spoke to her n yet now her daughter is sweet as pie cos she has been caught.