Why does he assume I can mind read?

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A family member (early 70s) has a quite startling habit of assuming I can read his mind. For example, he will make arrangements and simply 'assume' I know about them, or he will just turn up at my door 'assuming' I was expecting him.

He is otherwise fit and healthy and very organised.

This family member is an in-law so I don't know him well. His behaviour is spooking me out.

I don't think he does assume you know, it's just suits him to do as he likes maybe?

He's an idiot. Tell him to let you know, don't assume.

Well what does he say when you ask "how was I supposed to know that?"

He is pulling a fast one. Challenge it each time.

He'll soon realise you can't read minds when he no longer benefits from making out that you can.

Make it a wasted journey to your door; don't go along with the 'plans' you didn't know about etc.

I suspected he was taking the piss but I didn't want to believe it :(

I feel very hurt. I've just done two consecutive night shifts. After a bitter reply when I asked for him and his wife to watch the children whilst I did the nightshifts he changed his mind and said he would have them for the weekend. Imagine my shock when he turned up on my doorstep with the kids at 11am as I'm about to go to bed. He dropped them off then headed to the pub.

That sounds difficult.... It's also a form of control :(

Abusive/controlling. Tell your fil to fuck off.