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What to do if you're not the perfect wife?

25 replies

Ziggzagg · 19/05/2019 01:49

I mean he married me didn't he?

I'm not at home cooking and cleaning all day! I work40 hours a week as a god dam child protection social worker 😭😭

I've spent time with my friends and got a bit pissed tonight?

Fucking hell 🤬🤬🤬🤬

OP posts:
HerRoyalNotness · 19/05/2019 01:50

Is he a perfect husband?

Original poster
Ziggzagg · 19/05/2019 01:50

He thinks he is Hmm

OP posts:
Weenurse · 19/05/2019 01:52

Well, this is interesting, did he not want you to go out?

HerRoyalNotness · 19/05/2019 01:53

I’ve told mine he’s free to find someone more to his liking. He’s still here

Puffkin · 19/05/2019 01:58

fuck perfect.
Is he trying to control you by punishing for having a life outside of your marriage? If yes then get rid. You’re a person not someone’s dog to be be controlled.

Strugglingtodomybest · 19/05/2019 02:15

Has he had a go at you for going out and getting pissed? What's actually happened?

BusterGonad · 19/05/2019 05:42

What exactly has happened? Have you had an argument?

category12 · 19/05/2019 07:15

You're a person, not a role.

Sleephead1 · 19/05/2019 07:22

I don't aspire to be a perfect wife and don't define myself as a wife I'm my own person. What does he class as a perfect wife ?

Shoxfordian · 19/05/2019 07:26

What have you done wrong?

SoyDora · 19/05/2019 07:26

Does he actually want you to be at home cooking and cleaning all day? Did he say the things in your OP?
I’m a SAHM and I’m not at home cooking and cleaning all day. I’m out and about with our children.

Redwinestillfine · 19/05/2019 07:29

If you feel like you're not the perfect wife give yourself a break and remember there's no such thing. If he is making you feel like this talk to him. If he has explicitly said it I would be having strong words. His issue, not yours.

RantyAnty · 19/05/2019 07:31

What did he actually say to you?

user1474894224 · 19/05/2019 07:44

Nothing wrong with going out and getting pissed. Also nothing wrong in OH thinking you are a mess and shouldn't come home in a state. He is entitled to an opinion. As long as he doesn't try to stop you doing it again.-- Remember no one is perfect.

Imnotbent · 19/05/2019 07:57

Define perfect, because my DH tells me he strives to be a perfect husband .... it’s never going to happen.

BecksDriver · 19/05/2019 08:05

Mine wants me to work and contribute (and I do, full time) but also wants me to keep house and expects me to take time off when dc are ill etc ........drives me mad. He would never moan if I went out though and I'd tell him to do one anyway!

Teacakeandalatte · 19/05/2019 08:14

Do you want to be a perfect wife if that involves doing all the housework on top of your FT job and never going out with friends or getting a bit drunk?

Ledkr · 19/05/2019 08:15

I'm not a perfect wife either (similar job too) I really couldn't give a toss.
I don't even cook if I can't be arsed and my iron is covered in dust.

I probably don't care as I see being "a wife" as a relationship and nothing to do with attending the needs of an adult male who is more than capable of meeting them himself.

He seems happy enough.

Moralitym1n1 · 19/05/2019 08:56

What to do if you're not the perfect wife?

I'm not and I don't care.

funnylittlefloozie · 19/05/2019 09:03

What's a perfect wife, anyway? My boyfriend thinks i am his perfect girlfriend. I am not perfect in everyway (in any way, tbh), but i am perfect for him, and that is all that matters.

OP, i hope your DH apologises after he sobers up.

SoyDora · 19/05/2019 09:08

Being a wife isn’t a role.

Moralitym1n1 · 19/05/2019 09:12

Men who go along with a part or full time working woman, accept the money into the family pot .. but then expect her to.also function as a full-time sahm mother on top of that ...are delusional, unrealistic and seriously piss taking.

If they want their wife to be able to behave like a full-time sahm, then marry and support a sahm. If their potential wife doesn't want to be that, then theyre unsuited to him as a wife (as many women would now be).

Something has to give if both people work.

category12 · 19/05/2019 09:15

What Morality said.

pickletickled · 19/05/2019 09:26

No one is perfect! Even Mary Poppins was only at a practically perfect level.
If your Dh has said this to you then he is a massive arse and you need to speak to him.
Everyone's opinion of perfect is different too, what exactly does he want from you?
My dh (then dp) once called me perfect and the main factor was because I cooked him a pie!! apparently no one had ever done that for him before Grin

Clutterbugsmum · 19/05/2019 09:56

What to do if you're not the perfect wife? File for divorce and let him find the 'prefect wife'.

And find a 'not so perfect husband' and have a happy, healthy relationship with some one else.

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