Was this weird?

[WhereForArtThouBray]

I am home alone very bored and thought I would look up someone on facebook I know to see if they have had their baby.

I type in the name in the search bar and in the results is a different woman of the same name and my bf commenting on her pics with compliments.
This was before we got together but I had a nosy anyway and saw they are no longer facebook friends but los of his friends are friends with her.
Purley out of nosiness I text him and asked why they fell out. I was bored and interested in some gossip, no accusations or anything like that.
Well he rang me and said there is nothing going on with her. She is a shit stirring bitch.
I was like whoa I never thought for a second that there was anything going on. Where did that come from?
So he said that when he was with his ex, which was a 13 year relationship, this woman said he was seeing her too, but she was lying.
Well he brokw up with his ex about 2 years before the photo comments, so that clearly wasnt the reason for the fall out at all.

I wish I hadn't asked. I just found his response really weird and now I feel uneasy.

We have been together 11 months and these comments were a year and a half ago so I didnt think anything of it. I only asked because i thought it might be a bit of gossip to brighten up my boring night. That will teach me!

Is what weird?

The fact you text him to ask about someone he used to be friends with and now isn't?

Very weird, sorry!

Odd response. Go with your gut. You haven't done or said anything you were not entitled. Sounds there is a lot more to this story. Trust your gut instinct. Maybe the term shit stirring is a term used by a cheater to describe a Woman whose character he is trying his best to discredit .

Maybe that was weird, we often text about random stuff when he is away and I wouldn't think twice if he asked me.

@Solebizzz that was what I was thinking.

I worry that you don’t know either of these people well enough to be trying to understand what’s happened in the past

If you feel something was weird prior to the mild snooping which triggered the mild snooping then maybe try to understand that first

I didn't think anything was weird and didn't for one second think anything was going on at all. That was the last thing i expected him to say.

I only stumbled upon the pictures because she has the same name as someone else. I wasnt looking for anything to do with my bf.

I'm sorry but I also think it's odd that you messaged him about someone that he is no longer friends with. The whole 'happened' to stumble across her page while looking for someone else. It doesn't really add up. Did you already have suspicions ?

I didnt have any suspicions and whilst you may think it doesn't add up it is true.

I had never even been away of this womans existence until tonight so how else would I stumble upon pictures from over a year ago. If she didn't have the same name as the woman I was looking for I still wouldn't know she existed.

Fb is a dangerous place to go frolicking willynilly. You didn’t just choose anyone’s photos to look through. You wanted to understand who this woman was to your bf. I hope you don’t feel attacked because I’m not aiming for that, but rather would like you to question yourself and see what you’re alluding to

I dont feel attacked just a little bemused that you think I went looking for this womans pictues.

I type in joanne little (not the real name) in the search bar.

Up pops some joanne little that I can choose from and underneath various posts from joanne littles that my friends have interacted with.

First on the list is a photo of the new joanne little with my boyfriends comment. A complimentary one.

So i click on it, see its from a year ago, have a nosy at her page, see they aren't friends anymore despite her clearly being in his circle.

Ask the question and get weird response.

There was no ulterior motive, I wasn't looking for anything. Just looking to see if the original Joanne Little had had her baby yet. (she hasn't).

I understand now actually op..because sometimes when I search someone in Facebook, if people I'm friends with have interacted on that person's posts, it will bring the posts up in the search too.
If it were me, i would have a chat with him in person and see what his response is.

I think I’m being unclear, where I’m suggesting needs looking at is the part where you realise she’s not the person you was looking for but that your bf had interacted with her and the decisions from that point

It does sound a bit weird that you just ask why he fell out with someone and you get an immediate call and an explanation that he's not seeing her.

On the one hand, it could be exactly as he says it -she caused him trouble before - which is exactly why he isn't friends with her on FB and he's worried she's doing it again.

On the other, it could all be a case of me thinks the lady man doth protest too much and it was far more recent than he let on.

Oh sorry I see, I misunerstood.

I just saw his comment and my curiosity got the better of me. I am terribly nosy its a character flaw. If i hear the neighbours row I will have a good listen for example.

It may well have been weird to ask, i just expected him to say she unfriended him when she got into a relationship or something. I didnt expect him to attack the woman and tell me a story with time lines that didnt fit.

I honestly never for one secind expected a phone call and for him to declare that nothing was going on. I never thought there was.

Do you share a computer? If so, she came up because he's been on her page recently.

I was searching on my phone. I think she came up because we have a lot of friends in common and it showed me the pictures and posts that my friends have commented on.