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Christening - Do I have to go??

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Twinkie · 13/09/2004 16:16

My cousin's baby is being Christened - nothing huge - they not remotely religeous - think she is doing it to get him into a school when he older and probably for the gifts (it was her who threw her own baby shower!!) - he is about 4 months I think.

Anyway I really don't want to go that much - me and my cousin don't get on that well - she is the sort of person who would stab you in the back in the blink of an eye - infact she sided with X2b when we first split and I really hate her for that - she is niave and immature and is keeping her son away from his father because his father won't financially support him - I think this is wrong but to her money is everything!!

My sister is going to be there too and we have not spoken since she told me that she does not feel that she needs to have a relationship with me - FFS I ended up in coiunselling and nearly topping myself after helping her with her problems last year and she repays me with that!! I know she will be all concilatory and have to say something but at the moment I think there is more chance of me wanting to punch her than anything - she might not want to have a relationship with me but she completely discounted how DD would feel just losing her from her life!! Mind you she is so bloody needy and everything is poor me my life is worse than anyone elses in the world that I know I am better off without her - just wish I didn't have to see her again and DD did not miss her!!

And I know she is going to try and muscle in when I have DS - she is already asking others when I am due and if I know what it is (she has already been told all of the facts) - God I don't know what to do about it - If I accept and then make an excuse I know for a fact that cousin would see through it and probably hold a grudge for the rest of her life - if we go both myself and DP would be on knife edge and DD would probably run up to sister which would piss me off considering she has wiped her existence from her life!!

Oh wise mumsnetters what would you do - I also don;t want to be all melodramatic and refuse to go or make a big thing out of it!! - I JUST DON'T WANT TO GO!!!

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alicatsg · 13/09/2004 16:19

I'd find a prior engagement if I were you - last thing you need is to go looking for added stress in life. Don't make a big deal about it - just an "oh sorry, what a shame but I'm committed to something that day. hope it goes well"

Avalon · 13/09/2004 16:21

Say you're going to go and then on the morning, ring your cousin and tell her that dd is ill. She was sick in the night and has dreadful diarrohea and you wouldn't want to pass that on to your cousin's lovely baby!

Twinkie · 13/09/2004 16:25

Just realised that I don't have DD that weekend anyway she is with her father!! So could just say that I was ill!! - Mind you DP has offered to go on his own but I wouldn't want to out him through that and she would probably try and bend his ear about what a cow I am anyway!!

DO you think she wouldn't see through it if I said I was sick??

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Avalon · 13/09/2004 16:38

What about a weekend/night away for you and dp as you haven't got dd? Sorry cousin, but we booked this weeks ago...

TraceyP · 13/09/2004 16:43

I wouldn't even bother to make an excuse. "We're ever so sorry, we can't make it but hope you all have a lovely day anyway" should be more than enough.

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