Tables have turned. How to deal with thish

[goole]

Been with DP almost 18 years now, we have two lovely dd. We met when we were 18.
For the most part, I used to get a lot of attention (without sounding big headed) just walking in the street, I'd get man approaching me asking for my number etc. It was very hard on dp as this often happened right in fro t of him especially in bars/clubs. He was paranoid (rightly so) and it was s big issue in our relationship
Fast forward to in the past few years, the tables have completely turned! It is now dp who receives much more attention than me. I have to say he's aged really well. It is now a daily struggle for me, I feel like roles have reversed - I'm finding it really hard to handle.

Example- we went to a event the other week, women were just surrounding dp literally! Taking to him . He also has a very charming, magnetic personality something I don't (in very introverted) I just felt like crying the whole time. I don't know what it is, the fact that maybe I never get that attention any more or the fact I just feel ugly and horrible next to dp. It's hard to say but I'm
Really struggling :(

Does anyone have these dynamics in your relationship? If so, how do you cope?

Why dont you ask your DH how he coped when you were getting people flinging themselves at you in the street? Surely he would be the best person to answer your question!

We have talked about it but tbh he seems quite smug that it's him that receives the attention now! I was never smug or proud when it was me, wont lie , it was flattering but I was very shy anyway
I just worry because he is so confident and charming, he might act on it

You say he was right to be paranoid when you were first together. Right because you cheated? Otherwise why was he rightly paranoid?

If you trust him there's no reason to be jealous. You both sound quite insecure.