Ending it but saying keep in touch

[Tofupho]

I went on a few dates with someone I really connected with but I’m really not ready for anything serious, which I told him. I sent through a very long explanatory message thanking him for our time together and just saying I couldn’t go into anything but I would like us not lose touch as feel like we got on so well. He agreed. Do I say anything back? I guess it would be weird to hang out so soon so maybe wait until dust has settled first?

Bump

I think it's unusual, but not so outlandish it won't work. I've made a handful of friends while dating when we mutually had no spark. It tends to consist of the odd spate of messages saying how are you and generally keeping up to date.

I've actually got a friend I met in a chat room in about 2004, never ended up going anywhere, and we still keep in touch about how our lives are.

I have been fortunate enough to have met a couple of people through online dating who I've ended up becoming really good friends with, I think initially give the space that's needed.... Because it is a kind of rejection of sorts so you need to let the person deal with that first.

BUT, If you can maintain clear boundaries and not muddy the waters in as far as, that person will always carry a bit of a flame for you so you owe it to them to be fair and treat them as a friend, not a friend with benefits, if you know what I mean.

Then it can definitely work 🌈 ..... Friendship is a great place to start from anyway and I think it's a shame to let someone go if they are fine with being just friends especially when you have so much in common.

I've met some really interesting people through dating 🌸