Since baby was born

[monikagabi]

Hi guys.
It’s now 5 weeks since my baby was born.i am well happy to have this little one.he was most wanted baby for me.but since he was born my partner is depressed more then ever.i am breastfeeding so little one is spending most of time with me.i tried to involve my partner in most things,like changing nappies,when giving baby top up bottle I tried to involve him Aswell.he is self employed and his work is not great atm either.its like one thing after another.i always try to make him happy.and cheer him up by making his favourite food,go out for walk or just surprise him with some little presents.i don’t know what else to do and now I am starting to feel depressed myself.today we had the biggest argument in months and all because he feels like I ain’t listening to him.but I am,I just don’t know what more to say or do

Congratulations on your new sweet baby!!
I'm not going to sugar coat this...
Your husband needs to get it together,immediately.If he's having actual depression then he needs to get to the doctor and get on an antidepressant.
At 5 weeks your body is still healing.You need HIM to be supporting,it's not the time for you to be "cheering" him up.
Be strong when you tell him,explain your concern for his mental health.And remind him that you need him more than ever right now.Good luck you and I hope you can get through to him.
This is supposed to be the most amazing time in your life!❤

Hiya and congratulations! It could be a number of reasons why your partner seems depressed....5 weeks is still early days and men can get post natal depression or feel like they can't bond with baby despite your help to include him in things? could be he's struggling to know what to do as a new father and the self employed job thats not doing too good atm can put extra financial pressure on him as he has a new child/family to support. maybe the best thing you could do is have a 1 to 1 chat with him and let him know you've noticed the change in him and ask him to be open and honest about how he's feeling and tell him how its making you feel and see what you can both do to make it better? As baby gets a bit older it becomes much easier to interact as they can play and laugh etc x

thanks we did had a chat.actually he was stressed because he had an portant question to ask and he didnt know how or when.at the end he hurld it up n we are engaged now .yeey.things seem to get better now.baby is nearly 9 weeks now n all is getting better....