How to handle Hub that is just so old fashioned

[Pantiles123]

Hey all. My first post but I've been lurking a while.

My hubby who I've been with for 14 years married for 3 is just getting on my nerves so much!!! Is it normal to think that we're just not compatible anymore?

I'm a wife and mama I look after the house, do the food shop, the bins, the house work, the bills, the garden bloody everything plus working two days a week as a nurse . Him, he just goes to work!

Like how on earth can things just change so much between you when kids come along. It's starting to get me down on top of all ready having some depression post birth.

Bring the dc into the bedroom, say, "here, this is yours, I'm off out".

You have 3 days a week at home so it's only fair that you do the bulk - that way you're both working 5 days a week. Anything you can't (legitimately) get done in that time gets shared between you both at the weekend.

But it's not just the days, is it? It's the night shifts with the baby, as well, every night, which she does while he sleeps through.

Plus the childcare in the daytimes on those 3 days a week. Is he looking after the DC while he does 'his' job? No. But she's expected to do that at the same time as all the housework, laundry, cooking, shopping, gardening, admin, and general lifework.

You tell him to shape up or fuck off.

Plus the childcare in the daytimes on those 3 days a week. Is he looking after the DC while he does 'his' job? No. But she's expected to do that at the same time as all the housework, laundry, cooking, shopping, gardening, admin, and general lifework.
But you fit the housework etc. in around looking after them. And then what you can't fit in you share.