Help, executrix for NC parent?

[AudTheDeepMinded]

I'm in a bit of a headspin. I've received a letter today asking that I act as an executor for an NC parent. The letter is from them and basically asserts that as I am their legal next of kin I am being asked so that the estate is handled properly at death.
Now, call me paranoid, but I can not help but think this is some sort of hoovering up exercise designed to suck me into some sort of contact/relationship with them. I was approached by a go-between about 3 years ago about resuming contact and refused. Surely they could have just named me in their will and I could have found out about it after death, why approach me now, directly, if not to establish contact?
Stupidly I feel somewhat obliged/dutybound to comply with this request. Could I fulfil this obligation with no direct contact, ie thourhg the solicitors? what does it entail. Should I ignore? Should I write and tell them to fuck themselves? ahhhhhhhh!

And I definitely DO NOT want any bloody money etc, I was 'bought off' enough when I was a child.

I am also nc with both dps. If I was in your shoes I would take the post. Donate to charity any monies.

Do not respond at all; to such people like this a response from you is what they want. It is the reward to them. This is another attempt at hoovering you back into their dysfunctional world so you really do need to maintain radio silence here.

I would now shred the letter if you have not already done so; do not give this any more power.

Good idea, the local refuge would be ideal! But the thought of having to have any direct contact as part of my role is very unsettling/ And would I have to visit their house after death and actually handle stuff etc? and would it be me that organised the funeral? Why can't they ask anyone else?

Attila it feels somehow too sacrosanct and disrespectful to turn my back on someone preparing for their demise. What if they have had a diagnosis or something? What about all the times they did good things for me (I can't pretend they were 100% awful). It's so confusing.

I wish I could shred the letter. I still have the letter their solicitor sent me some 20 odd years ago at the time of the divorce where they told me they did not want contact (after I'd provided evidence of their unreasonable behaviour for the other parent). It's too potent to destroy.

You have rights too and you have the right to be treated with love and respect. Your parents are still not doing this and tbh they never have.

This letter from them is another attempt to exert their own dominance over you. They have not fundamentally altered since your own childhood. They are not sorry. They don’t acknowledge the abuse. They never wanted to change or tried to change. So why is it up to you to be there for them when they were never there for you? Although they fed and clothed you, housed you, took care of your physical needs) your emotional needs went totally unmet.

Abusive people are not nasty all the time but their nice/nasty cycle is a continuous one. They made you the scapegoat for all their inherent ills.