DH forgot I had an interview.

[BaggiesBride]

I went for an interview this morning and my DH forgot that I was going. I'm probably being super sensitive (bloody pmt) but I wanted to ask if you'd be hurt by this. I am already working but today's interview was for a job with a slightly better salary and the potential for promotion.

This would hurt me but I would talk to him and tell him that it shows that he isn't thinking of you. Saying that I would just leave it then. Is he particularly busy himself at the moment? Is it out of character?

it depends, is this a one off or does he do this kind of thing often?

We do have a lot going on atm with building work on the house, but nothing major. He has apologised this evening, he said his work was extra busy today. I just feel a bit taken for granted. That said, it feels a bit petty. Thank you for giving me your opinion, I appreciate it x

Depends if it’s one off.
If he’s really sad that he forgot and apologetic

Honestly, a one off. I just keep thinking that there is no way I would have forgotten if he was going for an interview.

My DH is very absent minded and does forget things a lot. He has forgotten that we are going away once and also forgets the dates of TTC appointments, I have to remind him. He knows its coming up but has no clue of the dates. I don't take it to heart I just remind him.

Maybe your DH just forgot what date it was but knew it was happening.

I get PMS and can take things badly. so can understand why it hurt you. Even if its PMS your feelings are valid.

If he genuinely forgot, apologises and was interested then it wouldn’t bother me.
If he wasn’t bothered at all and thought i was making a big deal if it then yes, I would be upset.

I know. You wouldn’t have forgotten. And if it’s a one off he probably feels awful.
We all do shit things to people we care about not on purpose

You’re allowed to feel pissed off and sad. But don’t let it linger.

Also! One day you will forget something... really you will!

Thank you all. Feels good to hear other peoples thoughts. Appreciate your help. 🌹 xx

As it’s a one off, and you have work and building work going on, not terrible IMO.

Go and have a cuddle! (Actual cuddle people) That usually dissipates the feelings over something like this.

This is probably the kind of thing my DH would forget. He never remembers what I'm doing of a day with DS, even if I've told him multiple times. It bugs me because it makes me feel as though my providing free child care isn't important enough for him to remember.

Honestly, my DH and I wouldn't remember unless we had spoken about it very recently and not just in passing. I have a mental health assessment tomorrow for counselling, I mentioned it to DH a couple of weeks ago, I'm fairly sure he wont remember it is tomorrow. He had a blood test last week that I didn't remember until he got back from the appointment. We are busy at the moment and can be a bit like ships passing in the night so we don't take it to heart if the other forgets, we just make sure we talk about the outcomes...that's the important bit!

I would be upset by this, and my DP wouldn't understand why I was upset.

It's only an issue, I think, if your DH would be offended by you forgetting in a similar situation - if he holds you to a higher standard than the one he expects to keep himself.

He's only human.
If he didn't have to take you there or pick up the DCs if you weren't available, then it doesn't really make much difference.
Try to let it go.
Far more important he remembers your birthday and anniversary.
Hope the interview went ok!

Depends. If you apply for jobs rarely and this was a big thing to you, like my recent new job was to me, (Dh sent me a text wishing me interview luck), then this would hurt. A lot.

Dh and I never forget to ask each other: " how did that big thing/meeting/etc go today".

But if you are both quite forgetful, then obviously these things wouldn't be a big issue.

How did the interview go?

Honestly, this wouldn’t bother me. If he’s normally considerate then a job interview isn’t really something to argue about. I’ve been for job interviews and not even told my DH before. No point until I know I’m in with a chance. Forgetting a birthday or anniversary would be an upset in my book but not a job interview. I’d shrug that one off if I was you

I forgot my husband's birthday last year 🤦‍♀️ well, not completely, but he'd got up and made us both a cup of tea and we'd had a bit of chat before I exclaimed, "It's your birthday!!"

What a plank.

Doesn't mean I don't love him or care about his interests. I'm just an idiot sometimes!

If he's really sorry he's upset you, I'd let it go. Tricky when you're hormonal, though!

The interview went quite well thank you, so fingers crossed. I'll find out tomorrow if I was successful.

Fingers crossed for you Baggies.

Thank you Lizzie xx