I have dc aged 5 and 7. Been separated from their dad 2 years, decree absolute just come through. Hated men and cherished my freedom for first 18 months! Then met an absolutely incredible man and am now head over heels. He doesn't have dc. We've been dating for 6 months, he's introduced me to his family and friends. All lovely, got on very well with them.
I'm at the stage where I'm starting to think about introducing this guy to my dc. Trouble is, nobody really knows about him. I've only just told my sister and one friend because I feel they are the only people I trust not to talk about him in front of my dc. For context my dc and I are together all the time. Their dad has faded out of the picture, sees them on his terms for a couple of hours every fortnight. He's been a complete arse and I worry that he'll disappear completely once he finds out from dc that I'm seeing somebody.
Because dc are always with me they know all my friends and I regularly have friends over. I was thinking about introducing new guy initially as a new friend as this wouldn't be out of the ordinary for them. My older dc is very intuitive though so don't want to lie to her.
I'm looking for any tips and advice as this is the first time I've ever done this. Bf is willing to follow my lead but I don't know what I'm doing! Some guidance from experienced women would be appreciated!