Great first conversation...will I be let down in person?

[Cherryblossom200]

Just wondered really, I have a great feeling about someone I have met on Bumble. Really like his photos, style of writing to me on messaging. And last night he suggested chatting on the phone and we spoke for 2 hours I’m shattered.

He has messaged me today and we’re going to meet up.

I know it’s different to meet up in person, but did anyone just kind of ‘know’ yep this feels right even from just a conversation on the phone?

I guess I’m hoping this won’t be a huge let down 😬

Nobody can really tell you, I think you know this but it's perfectly possible that he'll be just as lovely in person!
Just meet, enjoy the date and see what happens. Don't build it up to be something before you've met, just take it as it is.
If you're looking for positive stories though, I met my partner on a dating app and yes, conversation with him was 'different' to how it was with other guys from the start - Easy, no game playing, no boring flirting. By the time we met I felt like I was going to meet an old friend rather than a first date and (thankfully!) he was just the same IRL as he'd been over the phone.
I didn't allow myself to get too invested until we'd been dating a while though, as lovely as it all is in the beginning, it's not really real until you've properly got to know someone
Good luck!

Maybe, maybe not... only one way to find out! Good luck

Thanks, you are very right Wishy 😊 x

Yes I did :) we spoke constantly for about 2 weeks before we met and it was just amazing

Unfortunately we have recently broken up, but a fantastic 10 months together and we are still talking.

I'd also not felt nerves like it but they disappeared the second he walked round the corner

Ah lovely sparkly! Do you mind me asking why you broke up?

I think if you chatted on the phone for ages, you'll chat in person too. You just need to find out if there's chemistry.

I know, the dreaded chemistry. That bit is always the hardest to find I feel.

Nothing bad, we both just had a lot on. I'd like to think one day we could revisit but one can hope :)

Yes, my now husband and I chatted for a good couple of hours the first time. I just knew he was something special. We couldn't actually meet in person for another 10 days, but chatted every day for hours. The date didn't disappoint, in fact it was amazing. I felt as though I already knew him, so felt more relaxed. Now married with 2 kids.

Thanks Supa! What a lovely story, really happy for you 😊

Yep. I had a message from someone on PoF, nothing flirty, he'd just read something about music in my profile and wanted to recommend a radio station/show to me. I listened, messaged him to say I'd enjoyed it and 'thank you for telling me about it', and then that was it for a week.

The following week I had set an alarm to remind me to listen, and knew I had to message him to tell him that I'd remembered, and the conversation just went from there. It was easy, natural, conversation via WhatsApp. I just knew I wanted to meet him, and so I cancelled another date so I could, and from the very first minute I saw him I knew we had something special.

We've been dating for a bit over three months, have said our first I love you's, and honestly I love him more every time I see or speak to him. I am not a believer in woo (you know soul mates and stuff like that), but we have the most incredible connection. I've never felt anything like it before. I've been doing some family history research, and he was joking with me at the weekend, that he's waiting for me to find out we're related or something, although he's Scottish and I'm English. It's like we already know each other. Weird.

I’m also wondering what would you consider as too much baggage...I’m now sobering up from our great call. And reconsidering things a bit.

He works in the RAF, he lives on the Barack’s during the week and goes home in the weekend. He plans to leave soon and find a job closer to home, but it looks like his ex wife has the house. Not sure if rented or owned. He has been upfront about his situation, he is still married and living separately for almost two years so the cost of the divorce is cheaper (is this true?) So in September he can file for divorce. I think financially I’m more stable than him. I own my own house and lucky to live in a nice area. He has two kids, one with adhd and autism. I have one child.

We both are in our 40’s so I expect a certain amount of baggage. I’m just now wondering if this is too much.

Though surely I’ll find a different type of baggage with someone else, in which case I will never meet anyone