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Crush on gym guy

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Nutjob09 · 14/05/2019 12:38

I am married and have a massive crush on a guy at the gym we say hi to each other and I am sure he finds me attractive. I hate myself for having such strong feelings for someone I don't even know! Anyway now I think he is ignoring me and it has made me do depressed. I just want this feeling over with. PS he's not even that good looking so I don't know why I am obssessing over a random guy, who initially started the eye contact and he's.

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SilverySurfer · 14/05/2019 13:32

Unless you want your marriage to end I think it's probably a good thing if he is ignoring you. If you would prefer him to come on to you I think you need to take a long, hard look at your relationship. Maybe cut down on number of gym visits or go at a different time when he hopefully won't be there?

Pretty much everyone has crushes at one time or another but the vast majority don't act on it, knowing it will bring a world of pain to their family if they do.

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Nutjob09 · 14/05/2019 13:49

Thx for yr advice, it really does help when I listen to reason.

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SilverySurfer · 14/05/2019 13:57

I do feel for you, it can become all consuming and in the past I've wished I had a magic spell to make the feelings go away.

Is There any chance you could go to a different gym?

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Nutjob09 · 14/05/2019 14:01

I could go at different times but I find myself wanting to go when he's there. It's just crazy I know but as I said he started the eye contact and then he started saying hello to me. I know it will pass but I just want the feeling gone.

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NoBaggyPants · 14/05/2019 14:04

He's playing with you, he knows you fancy it and he's winding you up.

Get some self respect.

NoBaggyPants · 14/05/2019 14:05

Haven't you also posted about having an affair with a work colleague?

FFS.

SilverySurfer · 14/05/2019 14:31

So you're not prepared to do the one single thing (change gym times) which would solve the problem?

Seeing what NoBaggyPants has just posted it appears you have form for cheating on your DH so will no doubt do the same with gym crush. I feel so sorry for your DH and hope if you do end up cheating with gym man, that he kicks you out on your arse.

I'm out - you really don't want to know what I think of people who cheat on the people they are supposed to love.

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