My OH met a friend on his hol a couple years of years ago, before we got together. Sounds a lovely chap. They send each other WhatsApps, little clips of where chap comes from (think Caribbean) and it’s really sweet. Chap is visiting in a few days & staying with OH.
I am really, really not jealous. I’m happy OH has this friend, he’s giving him advice about property stuff & business. OH has no family and this chap is going through a messy divorce so they have been very brotherly,
Why do I feel blown out, suddenly, by his friend’s visit? Friend arrives Thurs, on Fri they are going to see something for sale (imagine like property) in Greece. Back next week.
OH asked if they can stay at my house 1 night on their return, so I can meet guy, and then they are off to OH’s other house abroad where I am welcome (and really, it is welcome!) to join them. It’s a good 10 hours away.
OH doesn’t know how long chap friend is staying. They will stay at OH’s house thereafter.
I work for myself & have to be here 1 day a week. I also see my DCs every other week.
I feel a bit disappointed. Am I just being picked up & put down when it suits him, or is it that he is comfortable enough in our relationship to be this way?
We’ve been together a year & he is otherwise very affectionate, saying how much in love he is with me, how his love for me grows, etc.
I prob need to talk to him but I can’t work out if I’m being irrational or not, and if so, what a decent compromise is...