Coercive controlling relationships.

[Poppie8]

I would love to hear from anyone who has successfully helped their SON out of a progressively coercive and controlling marriage. Often called “gas lighting”. My 6 month old grandchild is not allowed to see me and my son will not contact me. I went to speak to her and I was told that because of a “made up reason” I had forfeited my rights as a grandmother. His circle of friends has diminished. He works so hard and she does nothing. My son and I were always really good friends.

I have had, and sort , loads of advice but would be very pleased to hear from anyone who has successfully negotiated this terrible situation.

Is the made up reason completely made up? Seems odd that she would tell lies, about you, to you, as the reason for not seeing you. Is it a made up reason, or do you just disagree with it?

Interesting that you say he works hard, she does nothing, and they have a 6 month old. Who looks after the 6 month old whilst she's doing nothing?

I successfully got myself out of a coercive controlling situation.
It is not always the way it is assumed. Most people assume that it will be a man controlling his wife or partner. As above it appears that a wife will control a husband. My relationship to my coercive controller was not as a partner.
I was also told lies about myself. The controller told me that I was a certain age. I still have not reached that age but that is what I was told 2 years ago. Despite the control I do know what age I am.
I was also told that I was lying about something which happened in my street. The controller does not live in my street. A neighbour on my street mentioned what was going on. I knew it myself what was going on but the controller said it was rubbish.
I can see through the controller now. I can even see what an idiot my controller was trying to change facts that s/he knew less about than my own self. (Obscuring the sex of controller to try for secrecy) It seems that some people actually think if they say a thing often enough and increasingly loudly it will become a fact.

OP I think you might have to wait until your son sees through things himself. Sorry

Thanks for your input. Glad you had the strength to sort yourself out.