Narcissists?

[OnwardsandUpwards27]

I have written a thread on here previously about my cheating scum bag of an XH and am sure he is a narcissist.

Just wanted to hear other people's experiences with these walks of life?

My XH wasn't physically abusive or mentally in the sense of calling me names etc but thrived off female attention. We were the "perfect" couple and hand on heart thought he was happy and I was too. However since the split I have found out there was multiple woman he cheated on me with and then finally actually had a full on affair. It's as if I reached my expiry date if that makes sense?
Think it still eats me up that we had such an amazing relationship but it wasn't good enough?

Apologies for the ramble but wanted other people's opinions and experiences. X

My experience was he was emotionally abusive, gaslighted me repeatedly, did the classic putting me on a pedestal and then devaluing and discarding, which leads to trauma bonding due to the intermittent reinforcement.
He used every single narcissistic hoovering technique in the book to try to get me to talk to him, it didn't matter whether it was good or bad attention, he just wanted a reaction to feed his ego. Completely persistent in attempts to get attention no matter how many places you have them blocked.

Lovebombed me at the start and got me hooked, hooked me at a time in my life where I was going through a lot of bad stuff. Any time you give them an inch with contact the lovebombing starts again.

Unbelievably frustrating to deal with them and they make you doubt your own sense of reality about the situation!

You'll only get better when you stop obsessing about it all. You'll never know why and you'll never understand the OW. It's his fault and his doing, you were happy and in love but he wasn't.

Good luck

Totally agree with pp.

I know I find it hard to understand how he can stand at the altar about to marry me full well knowing that he was having an affair? Don't get me started on OW as she wanted to be with him after he married me and went on the honeymoon!

I am almost a year down the line and still feel so full anger and hurt! Maybe cause I am a nice person I can't understand so thinking he must be a narcissist to make it easier in my head.

Just wish the anger would just go away! Doesn't help that the OW can't help but cause drama in my by stalking me!

OP, have you read any of HG Tudor's work? I have found it very helpful. www.narcsite.com is his blog