Would you date yourself?

[JoeyBartonHanson]

And why

I wouldn't , I'm not that interesting as a person.

Yes I would I’m honest laid back loyal wonttalk about you behind your back and would do anything for you

I’m very attractive although will likely get stoned for saying that I have good boobs nice car lovely house and a great job

I’m quite interesting and funny

And despite the lack of them in this post I can use full stops and commas when the button on my phone works

Definitely not.

I quickly identified i am of low value in the dating stakes. I'm fat, over 40, a single parent, work full time.

I'm told i am really bright, beautiful/good-looking (definitely not), great with people, engaging, kind, trustworthy and funny. Sometimes i can see it, but mostly i don't. i suppose that makes me a negative person.

Ive had a pretty traumatic decade and just feel not good enough. I certainly wasnt for my husband that's another story

I dont know what it would take for me to view it differently tbh. I crave closeness and intimacy yet i have been so badly burned i dont want to give it. I think i trust my judgement more effectively than say a year ago, but understand myself well enough to know that i'll always believe i fall short.

Self-fulfilling prophecy right there.

Yes, I'm perfect!

In reality - probably yes. I have a good sense of humour, I'm optimistic, in good shape (given that I'm 45 and have had two children) and I enjoy doing new things/meeting new people.

On the negative side, I'm quite shy (but hide it fairly well) and I can be lazy and procrastinate sometimes. I've got better with this over time, though.

I don't know that I could be bothered with anyone new if something happened to DH, though. Relationships are a bit of an effort and I think I'd prefer to be single and do exactly what I feel like all the time!

I think so. I get along well with myself.

God two of me in a relationship would be chaos. I often say dh is a saint for putting up with me and actually finding me quite endearing and cute whereas I see myself as scatty and clumsy (current moon boot and crutches proof of that) I am forgetful and you’ve heard the expression someone that’s been here before? I’m not sure I’m been here now sometimes. But actually I’d probably date myself for a while at least. I’m pretty funny and caring quite a glass half full type person and despite my daily chaos I am exceptionally calm and competent in a crisis and fall apart afterwards. I’d give me a go at least

Ha! I definitely would.. not sure what that says about me though

No
I’m terrible at relationships. Although I would because I’d understand how I work and my personal life works and would be able to adjust accordingly.

If I was single I would.

No way!

Definitely I'm great in bed, funny and kind but nothing too serious though, just fun,fun,fun.

Yes definitely

No. I have a mental health condition that I know currently I am not strong enough to support so it would be a no from me.

I wish I could date a male version of myself haha

No

• I like me time
• I would hate me if I said you work too much
• Withdraw far too easily

😂😂

I would but I'd be a bit wary of all those diy jobs I've got lined up!

Well, I’m a fucking nightmare to live with but I am an enthusiastic bedroom participant, so on balance I’d say yes.

God, yes! I’m amazing!
You’ll need to be a man (or not), over 36 (or 21 at a push) and under 90. Or, I will, if I’m dating myself. It would be fine. I love my own company.

No way. But there again, I don't expect anyone else to either

No I wouldn't.
I'd play hard to get and then if I won me over I'd find out I'm frankly not worth the effort at the moment. I'd be put off by all the jobs I haven't done in the house, what little care I take of myself and how boring I am.

(Excellent question!)

Yes, and no.

I’m quite interesting, quite captivating, I’ve been told, but not in an OTT way - I never court attention or behave in a hugely extroverted manner. I’m intelligent and can converse quite comfortably and intelligently with anybody at any level about almost any topic. I’m open to others, vulnerable but also quite a closed book emotionally, I don’t give a lot away. I have a certain mystique as a result, but that’s not my intention, it’s just how I feel most comfortable. In person I am quite detached but with a very apparent intense undercurrent which is obvious to those who know how to read people. I love men, I love the game of attraction, and I love sex. I”m strong willed, passionate and apparently, quite intimidating. I make a great person for an intense and all-encompassing affair, but I’m really much better in small doses I think. I’m really still a toddler inside a grown woman’s body, for better or worse, and that can be quite trying in a relationship day-to-day and my OH says he finds me quite exasperating.

I would date me but I’m not sure I’d settle down with me. Too much hard work.

Honestly I would but would prefer if I lost at least some of the weight.

Other than that I'm great as long as you're not a pushover - I need someone with a little guts so I can tease them and they can tease back as good as they get! Plus I can be rather sulky but do respond to nudges about it because I'm aware I do it without realising, both of which I do with other people :)

Right now I'm a hot mess.

In a year or two, definitely. I'm pretty awesome.

I would during the first half of my cycle, the last few days before my period, no freaking way. I never suffered from PMS before but after a long period of stress and adrenal fatigue, I am not that good at holding myself together and get quite anxious, needy, tired, unmotivated and insecure. Although I keep most of it in and keep on plodding on, I guess I'm a bit edgy and irritable. The rest of the time I'm easy going and fun (I think) and I care a lot about the people I love.

No...I’m just not into women

@ninkaninus

i like your description - i recognised a lot of myself (the more positive sides) in your post. So thank you for that.

i too have been told i intimidate someone..... didn't realise it wasn't necessarily that i am intimidating , if you see what i mean.