Dating - what to look out for

[crappyday2018]

Sorry, I can't seem to find the dating thread. I've done OLD a few times off and on and never had much luck. Joined again a couple of weeks ago and amazingly seem to have found myself with a few potential 'irons'.
I like one guy in particular and we've been chatting by text for a few days. He is just a normal down to earth guy who seems to be very respectful and hasn't once tried to talk about sex.
Another guy I've also been chatting to and he's suggested meeting and I do like him, however, I wonder if he has some 'issues' as he can be a bit negative and a bit deep at times. I think he might be a bit of a loner. So, I'm not 100% sure about him although I feel I should give him a chance.
Anyway, my question is - what are the red flags and warning signs to watch out for?
First guy seems very keen but he's not been over the top or declaring his love or anything stupid. He's not talked about sex and we just have good banter.
I just don't want to end up with another weirdo!

From my last experience:

*How they talk about their ex (Oh, she was a psycho but you done nothing wrong? Oh, OK... RUN!)

*How they talk to their relatives (mother).

*Things they have clearly slipped up on.

*Relationships with the opposite sex that they try to dull down or hide things.

*Clearing search history on their phone.

*How their family talk about others (because one day you might not be in their good books - they will make your issues/breakup 10 times harder).

*Lies, not just to you but to others (RUN!).

I think I'll stop there...

Thanks! He's not even mentioned his ex yet which is good. He just said he's been separated for 6 months but the marriage had been over for much longer. He's not mentioned her at all.

I found the love-bombing a massive red flag too!

Have you actually met these men?

"Married but separated" is a deal breaker. Usually the wife has no idea she's separated from her husband.

Yes well that could be true of course but I can't assume every 'separated' guy isn't separated. I'll obviously watch out for any warning signs they are still with their wives. Maybe if he avoids me going to his place!!

Also, surely if they are actually still married then they would be more likely to say 'single' than separated?

If you tell your friends and family about them but they keep you a secret.
If they only phone/ message at certain times of day.
If they are reluctant to meet for a very long time - you get their whole life story over the phone but no effort to meet.
There's gaps in the communication for a long time, you can see they are online, then there's an excuse.

Positive things: they make plans to see you regularly. They make the effort to come to you. They initiate the communication. Actions mean more than words.

@cookiechomper great tips. This guy texts pretty much all times of the day, is keen to meet and wants to ring me. Its me that has struggled to find a free night.