Together nearly 3 years but not sure about the long term now

[Petals23]

So we're together nearly three years. Lately I'm starting to question whether he's right for me - eg if he asked me to marry him I'm just not sure I'd say yes. Our circumstances changed a few months ago and we only see each other mainly at weekends now with one night staying over, only an occasional evening midweek. So we do nice things and get on fine but really spend no quality time together. He's in 50s and me 40s. We're both independent. He likes to drink more than me - eg he downed 2 bottles of wine a few weeks ago at a party. Now he wouldn't drink this amount every weekend and would sometimes only have 4 or 5 pints. I suppose my question is, do I hang on in there? I'm afraid of making any rash decisions.

I think if you are questioning it you already know the answer unfortunately. If you can’t see yourself saying yes to spending the rest of your lives together I would listen to you’re gut.

Not only do you deserve to find someone who makes you happy but so does he!

Thanks. He rarely comes to family events with me, which I actually don't mind too much, but expects me to attend his. I just don't feel we're very solid after nearly three years... we lead very independent lives.

Don't be with someone because it's better than being alone. Be with them because you WANT to be with them.

He rarely comes to family events with me, which I actually don't mind too much, but expects me to attend his.

THIS - says he is a selfish arse and you should run to the hills, they are that way >>>>>