feel alone and scared :(

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hi broke up from my Emotional abusive partner 4 weeks ago and i was sort of getting over him until my son came back today after staying at his place overnight and told me he has got back with an ex of his from over 30 years ago ....my son spoke to her over skype apparantly ...ever since we broke up he has totally ignored me ...he wont even look at my house when he picks our son up, after being together over 20 years it feels like i never existed ...i feel empty and scared ....has he really got over me so quick?.... the thing is he treated her badly aswell and he was trying to trace her where abouts behind my back so he could apologise (he said) and now hes found her its like i was never with him and he has totally cut me from his life is it normal to feel this way i feel so betrayed .....

are you sure this started after you broke up?

You're well out of it. You should feel sorry for the poor cow. Just shake the dust from your feet and thank your lucky stars you've got rid.

i think so the reason i found ot is because she msg my older son on fb and said do you know ....i am trying to locate his where abouts as he is trying to trace me

the thing is all these horrible feelings im getting feels like it will never end i feel betrayed

He was emotionally abusive to you! Why do you care what he's doing or who he's with?

Do the Freedom Programme and lean to disengage from him emontionally - then you can start living your life.

i know ive had a lucky escape from him but i still feel like ive been betrayed ....i suffer with anxiety and have done for years

4 weeks is not a very long time at all and you were together for a very long time.

It is 100% okay to still be sad over this. It is okay to know that he is no good for you, but still grieve that life you had with him. It is okay if some days feel like you’re back at square one. I know it’s so hard but you have to be so strong for yourself and your son.

Please understand that you deserve so much happiness, you deserve someone who is not emotionally abusive and who won’t make you feel like this. And you will find that person, but not right now. Right now it is okay to have days like this. Forgive yourself, but don’t go back to him. He is not worth your time.

I hope you find peace eventually OP and I hope you know you deserve to be loved properly x

4 weeks is absolutely nothing after a 20 year relationship. You need to be kind to yourself, and grieve the lost relationship. Of course you feel lonely and confused - your normality has been taken from you, but it was not a good normality and in time you will begin to see this. As for your ex-partner, it doesn’t sound like he knows what he’s doing either, and introducing someone new to your son so soon is crazy, but that’s his issue, not yours. Concentrate on yourself, and your son, and you will get through this. Sending💐

thank you so much ...i needed to hear that i will get over him everyone for your kind words x