Would this annoy you?

[cleomummy]

Dh said this morning we should have a date night tonight, watching a film and spending time together as not done this for a while.

I said- so are you going to cook for me? He said- you cook for me to which I replied it wouldn't be a date night then as I cook for him 7 days a week anyway!

So, got home and he's been to the supermarket and bought dinner, lovely. But he's out of the 4 things he's brought I only like 2 of them! I feel like he's basically brought what he likes to eat and not thought at all what I like. He does this whenever he cooks, eg putting spices into food to his liking and forgetting the dcs and I don't like spicy food. It's a nice thought and I don't want to be ungrateful but I think I d rather have the things I intended to cook as it's all things I really like. I am going to end up with meat and one veg for my dinner with what he's brought.

Would this annoy you or would you suck it up?

Depends, did he also buy wine and pudding??

No, just main meal. I am surprised there is no pudding, we already have wine in the fridge, but I think he was trying to be thoughtful as he knows I am trying to be healthy

I'd leave it, it sounds like he's trying to make an effort and as he was the one who suggested it I'd let it go. He's a man, he probably forgot you don't like half the ingredients!!!! Seriously though, enjoy the evening x

I think perhaps try and focus on and appreciate the thought and effort he has put in, rather than on where he's got it a bit wrong? I mean that in a nice way - but at least he's trying!

Does he get bored of your non spicy food that you all eat every day? He’s probably wanting to treat himself.

Dogparty- what he has brought isn't spicy for tonight, that was an example of how he tends to think about what he likes food wise rather than what others like.

Yes, I know I should appreciate the effort but I feel like he's made the effort to get what he wants rather than for me by choosing what he knows I would like. If it's a date night for me I thought he would think about what I like, I do think this is a little selfish. It feels like he made the effort because it's what he wants rather than he's made it because he knows it's what I want. I am trying to watch the calories and it feels like a waste of calories on something I don't like that much and I am not bothered about. If I am going to break my daily target it needs to be worth it.