Hi everyone, would appreciate some advice.
I have recently met someone great. We started out completely as friends. We met at softplay ha! (I know, ridiculous). Both single parents obviously. Our sons just started playing together and they hit it off. It was all very friendly for the first month or so. I live in a small town and we would bump into each other (not arranged!!) at the park or soft play or just out and about. I didn't think much of it, it was mostly just chit chat whilst the boys played. Anyway, it got to the point about 2 months ago that it became something more. Since then, NOTHING has changed in front of the boys. There hasn't been a single time we have touched, kissed, hugged or spoke about anything 'flirty' whilst with them. They are 1.5 and just turned 3. We spend 'proper' time together at night or when we don't have our children. When they are together it is completely friendly, as it was before it developed and I would never even dream of anything else.
I would like some advice on how you would deal with this. I did think perhaps when it became something more we should stop hanging out with the boys, but they adore each other! We have hit a dilemma. Last week his son started talking about me and my son to his Mum. Now, in any ordinary situation, I imagined if I started seeing someone, it would be a while before they met my child, and I imagined I would be letting my ex know it would be happening. This would be after I knew it was serious and worth it. Like I said it has only been 2 months of actual dating, it would be at the normal stage of telling our ex partners about them yet but the situation makes it hard.
This has all happened so organically, I have met his child a lot, way before it became romantic. His ex is (rightly so) kicking off about this and I really am struggling on how to deal with it? Do we just stop the playdates now that its romantic and go back to square 1, dating and then reintroduce at a later date? Would that just confuse them (more so the 3 year old). As I said the boys know nothing - to his son I am just my sons Mum.
I never thought I would meet someone WHILST out and about with my son. Help! Is his ex right in being annoyed? How should I work this. She started a huge argument with him a few days ago, said she asked her son if Daddy and me kissed and cuddled and he said yes. Now, this is COMPLETELY untrue, I would never do anything like that. There hasn't even been a case where we have sneaked a kiss or cuddle when we thought they weren't looking - it just hasn't happened. I am not sure if she made it up or you know how 3 year olds can be like, you can ask them if there is a unicorn in their bedroom and their imagination runs wild and they would say yes.
Any advice? x