First time sleeping with a woman nervous...do I end it now?

[kirstyhi]

I'm 28 and have dated men up until now.
Longest relationship was 3 months.
Never really fancied them.
Became friends with a woman and fell totally for her.
Put off telling her but then I told her.
I really like her but the thought of sleeping with her terrifies me but I want too,I totally find her attractive and can't get her out of my head.
My brain is saying run incase it's a flop and I mess our friendship up.
I don't know what to do.
Dating men was easier but I was so bloody miserable.

Why don't you tell her how nervous you are? Remember the first time you slept with anyone was terrifying so it's only the same really. I am sure she will understand

Congratulations on having the courage to be honest about your sexual orientation. It must be scary.

I'm het but when I was young it was extremely fashionable to say you were bisexual. On the strength of that I slept with several women. I found that when it came to the nuts and bolts, so to speak, it was all instinctual and seemed to come naturally, the same way that sex with men did. It's easier, really, as you start by knowing what having a female body feels like.

You know she's already interested. I'd go for it. Be open. Be kind. And if you're nervous, say so.

You'll be fine - go for it. Who isn't nervous the first time? It's perfectly natural to feel like that - if you really like her you'll find the nerves go once things hot up.

Just explain you have not slept with a wOMn before and ask her to show you the ropes :)

Is she gay? Do you know? Does she fancy you?

It's no different from the first time you ever slept with anyone.

You will be nervous but it will be fine and if it's not, your not going to die you just might feel awkward and then the next time it will be better!

talk to her about it

Um slow down. Is she gay? Does she fancy you?
The title of yr post doesnt match where u are in this situation which seems to be 3/4s in yr head!

It’s completely normal in the gay world to be any age and have zero experience with the same sex, so a partner really wouldn’t be worried or find it strange.

Just tell your partner how you feel, it’ll be okay.

If OP has told the woman she fancies her, and now wants to "end it", sounds a lot like they are in a real relationship, not just one in her head.

Go for it, what could go wrong?

You haven't said what her reaction was!

If she is interested back, you've told her that you've not done this before, haven't you?

It's another virginity for you (and her?) to lose. Of course you're nervous. If you both accept that, you should be fine.