Is any woman on here with a partner who is an absent parent by choice?

[gingertesco]

Tell me about these men, are they just spineless or misunderstood?

Want to add that my dad was no angel in all of this - his new wife (they’re still together) couldn’t have children and he made it clear that he wanted us to to think of her as our 2nd mum. He did rub it in my mums face all the time. We re established contact at about 11/12 (when my mum got remarried) and then when my mum wouldn’t invite his new wife to my sisters 13th birthday party he tried to get us to choose between her and our mum - he gave us £50 each to say we wanted his new wife at the party! I’ve seen all the court papers, they were both as bad as each other really.

Another classic case of the parents tit for tatting instead of putting the kids first.

Genuinely why I’ve built up a friendly relationship with dhs ex wife so the kids don’t get stuck in the middle.

My ExH moved abroad and lived off grid.
I tried to facilitate but he just wasn't interested.
His DD really does not like him now.
She doesn't talk to him.
That's his loss!