Partners Dog Passed Away - How Can I Help? Lack of communication.

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Hi Mumsnetters.

My girlfriends dog has very sadly had to be put to sleep today. He was a big part of their life 15 years or so. It came rather out of the blue so it's a massive shock to the system.

I want to be the best I can support wise for her in this very difficult time. We live apart and a fair distance from one another so its not easy for me to just 'Pop' over. I've not had this happen before so I'm not sure how to best be in the situation.

We text all day and as you can imagine today has been understandably different. I've let her know i'm so sorry for the loss, that i'm there for her, and only a call away if she needs me and there to support her. She replied with thank you and that was it.

Any ideas on how to help/manage this? Should I leave her be and now let her reach out when shes ready rather than pestering with messages to keep conversation going/help take her mind off things?

Thanks!

Totally agree with ChocOrCheese, let her grieve and just let her know you are there for her, when she is ready.

She is raw, emotional and insular. She is coping in her own way. Respect that.

You sound clingy and over the top

She is grieving. She knows you’re there. Stop watching her online activity and let her message you back when she wants to.

agree with pp, go for a walk, go for a pint. Stop obsessing over when she last contacted you.