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Please help me!

8 replies

Unknown0605 · 08/05/2019 14:18

Just to give you some info about me. I have 2 children under the age of 4, I split with my husband and met someone else we’ve been dating 6 months now.
Now the part I need help...
That someone else had a one night stand 3 months before we met she got pregnant and has just had the baby. She’s totally obsessed by him and begging him back. She sleeps around a lot and he could be the father out of 3 men! She’s saying it’s definitely his but without a dna no one can be certain. (He’s said he will pay for dna but she’s being difficult)
My head is all over the place. I think maybe more went on than what he’s told me between them. I’ve never known a girl to be so obsessed from a ‘one night stand’ she’s saying all sorts that he can’t have contact with baby unless he’s with her basically. He’s told me he hates her and that he wouldn’t ever go back but what if she sucks him in to it all. If that baby turns out to be his she will never ever leave us alone and I don’t know how to deal with that. It’s all so unknown. I suffer really bad anxiety which is probably making this 10 times worse. I’m all over the place Sad

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Foxglovesandprimroses · 08/05/2019 14:25

Take a break from all the madness and split up with him. Enjoy being single for a bit and concentrate on your kids. You've got 2 kids under 4, I wouldn't be giving all this rubbish headspace.

AdaColeman · 08/05/2019 14:32

You have only been together for six months, yet already you are deeply involved in the messy drama of his life.

This is going to get worse, and it may never get better.

Do yourself and your mental health a favour and dump this guy. Focus on your very young children, and making your lives good.

Somewhere out there will be someone who will make you happy, but this man is not him.

hellsbellsmelons · 08/05/2019 16:13

Run - protect your DC from all of this.
You do not need the drama in your life right now.
Your DC need you and not a load of crap and anxiety at the hands of a 'man'!
Please be by yourself for a while.
Focus on your DC.

KOKOtiltomorrow · 08/05/2019 16:22

Move on. No man is better than any man. I honestly at times struggle to understand why people with young DC get involved in such drama with "D"Ps they've known 5 minutes. You can do better - for you and your DC.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 08/05/2019 16:36

No-one is worth this amount of drama after just 6 months.

Another one saying cut your losses and be single for a while. Focus on your DC and yourself.

I suffer really bad anxiety which is probably making this 10 times worse

Yes it probably is. Do yourself a favour and exit the madness! Leave them to it.

LizB62A · 08/05/2019 16:43

No man is better than any man

Definitely this !

Pipandmum · 08/05/2019 16:46

How can he ’go back’ if it was only a one night stand? Sounds like a lie to me. You can trust him leave.

RLEOM · 08/05/2019 17:05

Yeah, I think he's lying about his relationship with her. Can't go back to her? That's not a one night stand. Hates her? That's not a one night stand - emotions must've been involved for hate to occur. Flowers

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