Hello, I’m in an emotionally abusive relationship with the father of my children.
I have been very unhappy for a long time, but just over this weekend I have made the decision I don’t won’t to continue in this relationship. We have six children, I’m a stay at home and he goes to work. We live in rented accommodation. I can’t afford to leave, and have stayed for so long hoping things would change. I have always felt sorry for him in the past when I’ve asked if he would leave but over this last weekend I’ve felt strong mentally for the first time in 15 years and have come to realise I do not love him anymore. He has always withheld money from me, tells me everyday in front of my kids how little I do and calls me names. If there is anything wrong with me health wise, then I’m not allowed to get the xrays that docs send me for. He will put me down in a very calm voice but then say he didn’t say anything. He has slept on the couch nearly two years, we haven’t been out together since having our children and we just don’t love each other anymore, I want to leave the relationship but he says if he had more money then he’d leave but he can’t afford it. How do I get out of this situation, any advice please as I can’t do it anymore, not even for the kids? He just wants me to stay in the relationship to punish me everyday