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[Namechangefortmi]

Hi. We have a beautiful baby couple months old. Partner has never done this before but we was in bed I was going to sleep when he kept asking for a kiss I have a quick kiss said was tired and turned round he pulled me back and said he wanted more I said no and turned round to go to sleep he said yes turned me round and pinned to the bed he was on tip by this time kissing me I was saying no he got my hand and put it on him saying just a hand then I repeatedly said no and trying to turn away on the end I did give in to a quick hand job then turned back round and went to sleep. I now feel like I was abused which I no sounds ridiculous but I can't stop thinking about it. Am I over reacting

Id go ballistic if that was me. No means no otherwise its rape. Make him watch the consent clips online. There’s one called cup of tea.

Why is feeling like you were abused ridiculous because you repeatedly said no and he overpowered you and forced you into a sexual act to get him to stop
It is assault and abusive behaviour and you are not overreacting
How has he been since

Giving a male perspective here. What he did was absolutely not on at all. Being in a relationship does not mean he has an automatic right, no means no (sorry for stating the obvious, you all know this).

There have been many times over my 20 years of marriage where one of us has said "no, not now" and that was the end of it.

In my mind that can be looked upon as assault.

You're feeling abused because you were
Can you call women's aid? You need to leave him

Thank you everyone I think I was feeling silly cause it wasn't full rape I would have absolutely reported that even though I know this maybe is as bad. He just said he's said sorry and it won't happen again but it's not good enough I know

What are you going to do about it?

It wasn't full rape but it was sexual assault. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

You need to take a little time to decide what you want to do about it.

I've just emailed women's aid, I know I don't want to be with someone who does that and bring a baby up in a relationship thinktthsts ok. It it's just hard I know I sound pathetic now

He really hasn't never been like this before he's usually lovely that's why it's hard to know what to do

Being usually lovely doesn't excuse sexual assault
Can you stay with family or friends? You need to leave him today if you can. There's no excuse for his behaviour

@Namechangefortmi honey that's inter-marital rape, doesn't matter that it wasn't full sex, he pressured you into a sex act when you clearly said no more than once. We're all with you.

Thank you everyone I know your all right. I don't think I can stay with him now but it's just the baby I'm in control now but sharing custody with him scares me he wouldn't hurt the baby I know but he's only little I don't feel comfortable leaving him with him now but staying for the baby probably isn't the best

Dreadful behaviour, has he even acknowledged what he's done?

He just says he's never done it before he doesn't know why he did it apparently won't happen again

A man who treats the mother of his 2 months old child like a sex toy is not lovely.

I know I agree a lovely person wouldn't act like that

Don't be in a position for it to happen again, as hard as it is, you need to leave him