Cheating: this comment cracked me up

[ScreamingLadySutch]

"How is it difficult to NOT FUCK random people? You literally have to do nothing, but go about your daily business. It’s finding someone to fuck, making arrangements to fuck, hiding the fucking that requires time and effort. It is not difficult to literally do nothing. I never was walking along at the grocery store picking out frozen peas when “OOOPS!” it seems I’m riding strange in the frozen food section! Difficult to be monogamous….pffft. Idiots."

starzig - good for you. If you've never felt the pain - you can't judge.
Have a look on the relationships board.

Your husband cheated on you, broke his vows to be faithful, lied to you.....and you dont think it's a big deal.

Sounds like someone is burying their heads in the sand.

If people don’t want to be monogamous then that’s cool. Just agree that with your partner at the start.

Don’t expect monogamy from her while you fuck around. That’s not cool or modern or free thinking, however some people try to paint it.

I thought this was going to be a thread in which people listed some of the laughable comments cheaters made.

It's easy to be monogamous when there's no temptation, libido or curiousity to lead you astray.

Oh, it is

Desire is not something that you have to follow. The whole point of our being pretty socially developed, as a species, is that we have ethical and social frameworks that mean we don't do all sorts of things we just feel like doing on the spur of the moment. If I really need the toilet when I'm out and about, I find a loo - I don't pull down my pants in the middle of the street and take a shit in public, because I'm not a fucking dog. And no, it's not more 'natural' to take a shit in the street than it is to find a loo, either. It's just basic social decency.

It's no more difficult to avoid situations where cheating is even a possibility. Just act with appropriate boundaries with others, and develop a sense of self that is robust enough that you don't need constant validation from the opposite sex in ways that might jeopardise those boundaries. It's pretty much just basic adulting.

@downcasteyes has it 👍

It’s really not difficult to be faithful

There is never an excuse for cheating. You always have the choice not to shag someone else

I’m sure some people like StarZig on this thread don’t care who the husband shags and that’s fine (although hope you’ve had STI checks for the sake of your health) but for me and a lot of other people dh shagging someone else would be our marriage over. It’s disrespectful and if you truly loved someone you wouldn’t be screwing around behind there back imo and it’s certainly not a silly thing to end a marriage over. Also it wouldn’t be the silly little woman ruining her children’s family life, it would be the husband shagging about cheating and lying that ended it, you could argue that if he loved his dc he wouldn’t of done it......

Sure some people have open relationships but that’s different because they aren’t lying to each other or cheating. It’s very open and they both would of agreed to that kind of relationship from the start and you would hope people in this kind of relationship they are careful with contraception to protect each other’s health.

StarZig It has clearly never happened to you. It breaks everything. You wonder what is real, and what is a lie. Whether he ever loved you, if he even knows what love is. Whether you are worthwhile, that somebody could care so little about your pain. It is absolutely the worst thing that has ever happened to me, that left scars on my heart, and I have had an interesting life.

It is really interesting that biblically, there is only one religiously mandated reason for divorce, and that is adultery. Even the patriarchs or whoever wrote the bible acknowledged what a family shattering thing it was.

But, an over reaction [where the woman destroys the family ]:

what about a man having to paternity test his children? Is that no big a deal?

The money lost?

A pregnant lady with her feet up in the stirrups, being tested for STDs in case her baby's health was at risk?

Or, those virus STDs that trigger cancer, or that you can never get rid of, ever. Not much of a deal, either?

I think there should be $$$ compensation awarded for adultery in divorce settlements, to reflect the damage caused.

Have you binned off the cheating twat in question screaming?

brilliant comment

was it just a random comment on an article or something?

it's so true!

It's the ones who say they didn't mean to - or even better it was an accident! Like they were just minding their own business when their pants fell down and some random stranger impaled themselves on their dick ...

marcus2000 or 'it just happened'

How does it just happen?