Been dating a guy for over 4 months, he was perfect in every way except that I found out tonight he's a dirty lying cheat for the last two months with at least one other girl that I know of. He told me he loved me, was exclusive to me, called me and messaged me CONSTANTLY. He saw me at least twice a week. We spoke most of every day. If I hadn't felt something in my gut for months I just would have continued and been none the wiser even now.
Tonight I saw another girl he follows on Instagram had shared a story showing some candles - the same unique candles he had bought me from his very recent holiday. I messaged her to find she has been dating/sleeping with him for two months - sometimes he would have stayed at mine at the weekend and driven straight from mine (calling me on the drive) to her. He saw her TODAY and called me on the drive to her, messaged me at hers and then called me on the drive back!
I know people are against snooping, but the only way I know this info is because I followed her Instagram from a different account - her account was private. Had I not followed her and her follow me back I'd have NEVER known. I'd be none the wiser right now. He promised he loved me, even tonight. Promised she was a friend and it was nothing.
Now he won't answer my calls or respond to me - yet still telling this girl things. I've blocked him now I've calmed down. I feel so stupid but also so relieved. I read these boards a lot and sometimes wonder if I was just going a bit crazy from reading about other peoples infidelity issues. But my GUT just KNEW. It has known for a long time.
Anyway I just want to send love to those of you who have been through similar...or worse - especially those of you suffering with long term relationships and infidelity. We are worth more than these pathetic men.
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