Accepted a friend request from my ex on Facebook - is this keeping me from moving on?

[Lillycake]

I thought I could be friends (not sure if someone on your Facebook counts as a friend these days) after no contact for 10 months. However, I find myself not wanting to log on (if I do I stalk - yes I admit it) in case I see something I don't want to see. Silly, I know, however.....I thought I would be ok. I do wonder if I'm holding on for that connection from him. He messaged a few 'how's things kind of messages but that's it. I feel like if I delete now, I'm being unfriendly? Also, again having no connection what so ever!

Just wondering what your experiences were of this? What would you do?

Do you want him as a Facebook friend? If not, then delete. Sod polite. You don't actually owe him anything.

10 months is too soon, your response demonstates that. I would delete him. Fuck friendly, he's probably sniffing out a fwb, and that will be devastating for your recovery.

Just delete him. Simple! I've been where you are so I understand the heartache ...

I thought I did as I felt ok when I had the friend request. But what is a friend on Facebook at the end of the day? Is he a friend? Not sure! I just thought accepting was proving a point to myself that I was ok and kinda wanted him to see that too. It was so difficult getting over him. It's so silly how something like Facebook can be such an issue!

I'm not friends on social media with my ex. In fact, he's blocked. We are on good terms but I don't want to see updates on his life, I find it painful

A few weeks ago I accidentally saw a link to his profile. My heart jumped, my gut felt tight. Absolute confirmation that I'm not ready and at this point we will not be 'friends.'

You don't have to prove anything to anyone. If you're posting about it and avoiding Facebook then sounds like you aren't ready.

Just delete him - you'll feel easier about it