should I end my relationship?

[irisheyes92]

Hi, am new to MN and I'm hoping to get some advice (I don't really have anyone to talk to IRL) My boyfriend of 3 years did a few strange things yesterday and I'm really upset...
First thing was we were leaving our flat to go food shopping & he turned around to go back saying 'oh I forgot my headphones' I said we're walking together you don't need your music do you, he rolled his eyes & we left.
Second thing was later in the evening I was lying on the bed he went to the bathroom but locked the door (this might sound weird to some people but he never does that even when showering) so I was listening & I heard his phone. He came out looking very shifty & I asked what was he doing he said 'nothing'
The problem is in the past I have forgiven him for an online sexual encounter & am trying to trust him again but doing things like that bring it all back up. I know the logical conclusion is that I end it because I don't trust him but why would he go through all the effort of getting me back just to do it again?

Does seem suspicious.

You can 1) confront him, 2) monitor his phone activity or, 3) just dump his ass based on a gut feeling. Or you can play him at his own game and change your habits, becoming cagey with your phone, too.

why would he go through all the effort of getting me back just to do it again?

Cos cake and eating it too. OP, my ex cheated on me multiple times but he never wanted us to break up - he was desperate to stay together. But still unable to change his habits.

Take a bit of a step back and look at yourself as if a stranger: quizzing him about headphones and listening in doorways - is that who you want to be? Policing someone is exhausting and bad for your MH.