Hi everyone...I’m going to get straight to the point. In my 20s I was in 2 relationships that were mentally/physically abusive. I have had one other relationship since (the father of my 12 year old son) and he wasn’t abusive but he did cheat on me and also stole £900 from my savings account when our son was a baby to buy cocaine. This was the reason I left him. This was in 2007 and I have not had a relationship since. I dated briefly in 2011 but I was mentally unprepared and became a bit unstable. Since then I have actively avoided becoming involved with anyone for fear of being mistreated again. I tell people I love being single and having my independence but I’m not being entirely honest. I do enjoy my own company, but I worry this fear of men and relationships is not normal and I don’t know how to overcome it?