I’ve written a snapshot of the behaviour of my husband which has been repetitive throughout my marriage. Now after reading threads on here I wonder if it’s emotional abuse? First paragraphs couple of examples then description of an event out with family.
Wouldn’t open eyes when I’m asking him a question about a kids club as tired. Was annoyed daughter wanted to open card day before birthday. Will say ‘this place is a shit hole’ and start cleaning furiously, creating atmosphere. Will actually wind down window and shout at driver in front (if too slow) in car park.
Before this in Berlin wouldn’t let me post pictures on Facebook in case people saw we’re away but then posts on his...
I suggest going into Berlin Wall museum and he refuses - it’s not worth the money, it’s 10 per person Leigh! Sits down sulking so kids unsure what to do. I breezily try to change the mood and say to kids (not looking at him) well I’m going who’s coming with me? Can see their worried about if their dad will get more angry. Tone of voice aggressive not suggestive. We all go in because I have said going in anyway.
Queue next evening - about to go out for dinner and he tells son to take his sunglasses off. ‘You don’t need them’ even though we have still each got ours on. Says again to son. I say you can wear them if you want. Tells me to shut up in the corridor. Walk to lift in silence. Son already has put glasses back to keep peace. Go down to find restaurant feeling like going to cry/feel humiliated. He’s in bad mood. Stop at corner where he says pointedly to me ‘so where are we going then?’ As my last decision taken away from me I darent say wrong thing. Thankfully daughter said ‘there’s a pizza place down here we looked at yesterday ‘ his not looking at me /speaking to me continues until next morning when he says sorry for saying shut up trying to cuddle me. I turn away and say we’ll talk when we get back home.