Is he up to something?

[suspic]

Dh recently stopped sharing his location with me on iPhone. I asked him why and he said he must of done something when he wasn't trying to fix his phone.

Yesterday I noticed he was no longer active on Facebook. I'm guessing he must of switched it off. Unless it's a glitch or something?

I have no reason to be suspicious generally. All he does is go to work and come home. He's been working a lot of extra on nights but I know he's been at his bosses house with other work mates. We speak on the phone a lot and I know he's been there.

However I know from past experience that this means nothing. I've been cheated on before - not by him and it's made me a very suspicious and insecure person in general.

We have a joint bank account but he does have a credit card which he pay off monthly. He just uses it for his lunch mostly.

Shall I say I've noticed the fb thing?

I know the passcode for his phone and he's sort of 50:50 with how private he is with it.

I just feel something is off with the fb thing. He's on fb now as I'm typing this and it shows absolutely nothing where as before it always showed when he was online

So ... let me get this right

He's never given you cause for concern

He has a medical condition that is currently affecting his private parts

There are no women at work

You know for certain he is at work as he is tracked via his boss

He is either at home or at work and no possibility of sneaking off work early due to boss tracking him

I think the issue is you being a little paranoid and having a wobble. Why can't you just ask him to put the location thing back on if you simply must track each other?

Hmmm hopefully it's nothing. I've been there, so I understand how you never fully trust in the same way. I'd prob watch and wait for a bit, have a snoop at his phone if you get the opportunity.

@SuperDuperCuper we don't track each other constantly. I never used to track him. I only know he turned it off as it came up as a notification on my phone. Otherwise I would never of known. He liked to have it on as a went through a phase of driving long journeys with work and he wanted to check I was ok without ringing me and distracting me on motorways.

Yeah I really dislike my ex right now. He put me through hell.

I really don't see anything to be suspicious of. So what if the location sharing is turned off? And the Facebook thing...maybe he just doesn't want to be constantly monitored. He has no defensive reaction to the name of the only woman you can think of him being in contact with. There's no suggestion they spend any time alone together let alone anything else.

Can't imagine a man with a condition that affects his privates feeling confident enough for an affair and no woman is going to have one with someone who turns up smelly and unwashed.

I think you're worrying yourself over nothing. I wouldn't snoop. I'd focus on getting the connection back by getting him to go for date nights. If you're feeling "off", it's probably because you're emotionally detaching from each other. Focus on your relationship, don't ruin it with mistrust when there's nothing to suggest untrustworthy behaviour.

Yeah, you'd be surprised.

Ok I’m guessing it was a glitch. I sent him something, something I actually needed to send him.

He got no notification of a message and I panicked. So I told him I’d just sent him something. He opened it up and now I can see he is online! So I’m guessing it’s because he hardly uses the messenger or something. But he definitely hasn’t switched it off.

There was definitely no notification when I sent it though. But I saw the first few messages and nothing suspicious.

I’m just going to leave it for now and take the sound advice from @JuniFora

It does stop showing if you haven't used messenger in a while, hope you feel a bit more reassured now OP

Another thing to bear in mind is that I have my online status switched off on FB because I don't want people messaging me because they see I am online. I don't want to get into chats like some friends do when they see you online sometimes.

I'd be alert to any other 'off' feelings that cropped up, but otherwise I think following JuniFora's advice sounds a good plan