We had a horrible argument last night and this morning, I slept on the couch. It was to do with his weed use and how I've 'moved the goalposts' since we've been together , namely that since he's pretty much moved in I have drawn boundaries.
It has happened slowly and with negotiation and I thought we were in a good place about it. When he wants to smoke he goes to his place and then sleeps it off. But he unexpectedly came over stoned the other night and though I thought I handled it ok he has been nursing a resentment about the whole topic which has now exploded.
This morning when the shouting (his) was over he said almost casually that he hates me. WTF? We were having a cuddle at the time!!
Oh and he said he strongly suggested I 'stop weeping'.
We been together about a year, have no kids together, I have my own grown up kids.
To avoid a drip feed I'd have to write a novel but essentially things had been really good lately and this has hit me hard.
Have you ever told someone you hate them like that? I haven't.