Rant and advice would be greatly appreciate

[k24m]

Last trimester of my pregnancy baby number to same father. He happened to leave me in my first trimester.

Just need a rant and some sense knocking into me. I just can’t seem to get over him I get so upset everyday over him. I’ve had a great few bad nose bleeds and I honestly believe it’s due to all this stress.

He’s honestly made a complete arse out of me. Sleeping with girls which has broke my heart and I feel like it’s destroyed me as a person. I’ve been referred to a psychiatrist and I’m recieveing counselling because I have taken the break up really bad. I’ve been getting messages off girls them telling me he’s asking them for nudes wanting to meet them etc. It’s like he has lost it and has gone mad it’s like he’s desperate to sleep with anything that moves. I feel so ashamed and I’ve been blaming myself for this break up because all I done was argue although I said some nasty things I never meant to harm☹️

Today when he dropped our child off after having him overnight he gave me a cuddle and apologised for the way everything has happened and he wants us to get on. I’m finding it so hard to get on with him when he has left me in such a stare cancelling mortgage payments almost left me homeless with a toddler and pregnant.

When he phones me he acts all nice on the phone and to face I’m just struggling because I feel like knocking him out I feel like a complete mug!

I’ve seen videos of girls masterbating and calling for him ‘to come stick it in’(seen on his private mails on social media) seen photos of him cuddling with a girl both of them naked 3 weeks after we split up. And I’m still trying for him to see sense he’s had everything with me a house , children , a good job a car I don’t know what went wrong He doesn’t realise what he’s lost but I feel like I’ve lost everything I have my child that keeps me sane if I get upset I just have to look at his face and I know I’m doing the right thing.

I just feel so awful hurt betrayed and so embarrassed sitting at home being pregnant all these girls chatting to him knowing my situation I’m just fed up.
When girls message me and say omg he’s so desperate or what an perv I feel so bad for him and my friend has went mental at me telling me to see sense stop being a nice person and think about what he’s done to me but I just can’t

You dont need to stop being a nice person.

Nice people still get angry, feel hurt, and are allowed to tell someone taking the piss to fuck off. You can reject an inappropriate hug or block numbers from sending you things (are people sending you videos, is he showing you, or are you logging on as him?). Being nice isnt just about accepting everything that happens to you no matter how shit and unfair.

I think your friend is maybe lacking a bit of tact in being so aggressive about it, but it sounds like they see what a great person you are and are frustrated by you not seeing him for what he is. Which is a cheat (I think some of this happened befire you broke up?) and a loser.

Wait, what? Random girls that your ex has been shagging have decided to track you down on social media and slag him off to you? And send you links to his private social media showing him naked with other women?

Surely you realise that he's the one sending these messages from fake accounts?

No sorry I’ll explain better. I had a meltdown and went into his social media and seen conversations of him and girls arranging to meet etc, and I seen videos that girls have sent him and him asking them to do things. I’ve had girls who he try’s popping up saying hello and asking to meet them have messaged me to let me know (not the ones he has slept with)

I had a couple of nose bleeds in later pregnancy too, don't worry about it too much; but yeah the stress is very likely not helping.

Look, the guy is not relationship material, end of.

Unfortunately you're just going to have to get your life in order without him, get whatever money you can off him for his kids, and try to remain civil (he doesn't deserve you being civil but if would be easier all around if you are).

When you're settled, further down the linw, you can try to meet someone decent.
He's not decent.

When girls message me and say omg he’s so desperate or what an perv I feel so bad for him

Feel sorry for yourself and your kids, not him.

Also; sure they're only speaking the truth.

OK. so we have 2 issues here.

1. You've been logging into his social media accounts to see who he's been messaging
2. Randomly, "girls" (hopefully you mean women) who he's contacted but don't want to know, have dug really deep to find out your name and contact you saying he's pissed them off

=Surely I'm missing something here....

Look after your child, yourself and your baby.
Tell him to fuck off
Stay off his social media