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He called me unstable & Fake!!

30 replies

Unicorn99 · 03/05/2019 11:45

Long story short, I met a man who is much younger than me on OLD. At first I was not really into the meeting, however, he insisted so in the end, I agreed to meet him at a restaurant that he said that he knew well.

I got there on time and waited for over an hour and then left - texted him to say that I was leaving - it was around 9.30pm, he rang begging me to wait for another 30 minutes. I refused as I was already at the bus stop and did not want to wait in the street in this area - he was driving. Anyway, he apologised and wanted to arrange to meet again.

After three weeks, we have not met yet, however, I have noticed the little things which bothers me a lot about his behaviour, when he said, I will call you at xx time, he would call three to four hours later. I run my own business, so time management is vital in my life.

I don't feel that we are on the same page so I told him that I no longer want to meet him and I blocked and deleted the number afterwards. He has made contact from another number to tell me that I was "unstable, fake, immature and ingenuine …."

I do not think that I am unstable, I have tolerated a lot of bad behaviour and inconsideration from men. I am simply putting the boundaries. I cannot afford to make the same mistakes that I made in my 20s and 30s. He has continued to text me from a different number begging to meet, I know that I have closed that chapter in my book.

What is your take on this and any advice would be appreciated?

OP posts:
dontgobaconmyheart · 04/05/2019 23:46

OP he sounds like a right freak. Make sure he is not able to contact you again! Also he disrespectful time management and the name calling makes him the opposite of a prize. Just forget about him and find someone you actually feel interested in. You were clearly never that bothered so just regard the experience as a lesson and next time only put yourself out for someone you feel positively about. Bullet dodged for sure!

OnlineAlienator · 04/05/2019 23:49

Some people do this as a pastime - it amuses them to control you, send you somewhere then see how long they can keep you waiting, then see if they can do it a second time. You've done the right thing!

pissedonatrain · 05/05/2019 04:49

Give him not another thought.

What some weirdo random guy online says about you doesn't matter at all.

And PP is right. There are people online who do this as a pastime. Either they want to control someone and play games or they're incapable of having real life relationships so they prey on people online and try to waste as much of their lives as possible.

AsleepAllDay · 05/05/2019 05:03

He's a real see u next Tuesday

ErrmWTAF · 05/05/2019 05:45

Bullet dodged and Bye Felipe!

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