Come tell us about the time your gut/ intuition was right....

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I have a few....

When I was in my early 20's, I was camping. I got a horrible restless feeling, and just knew my bf was up to no good. When I got back, a friend of mine said she saw him driving around with another girl- at the same time when I had my weird feeling.

Another time- I was separated from my ex husband, but we were trying to reconcile. One evening he said he was really upset and couldn't see me. I popped round anyways ( his dad was dying, so I thought I was being nice) and he didn't answer the door. I left, but I saw a car parked on the street that caught my attention. For some reason I noted the number plate down- like, I had a really strong compulsion to remember it. A few months later, I had finished with him due to him lying. His " new" partner owned the car I had noted.

What are your stories?

Hello, I beleive women have such a strong gut instinct.
Once I was at a party with my ex's family/friends & this woman would not leave our side - we danced, she danced, went to the bar, she came too, sat down she'd be there. Had a really uneasy feeling about her like she was over-friendly & a week later I found out her & bf were messing around with each other!

Ok so this is curved-ball. Close friend was 39 weeks pregnant. Me and her saw a lot of each other. She came round to mine on the Sunday. We sat next to each other on the sofa, chatting, cups of tea etc. On this particular day I had a new and overwhelming feeling of panic about the baby, almost repelled by it, the need to tell her to go to the hospital (my local hospital, friend was not even booked to deliver there) and get the baby out. By the Wednesday her baby stopped moving and was stillborn a few days later. I have never told her this. I’m not into premonitions or new age stuff. I’ve only ever told one other person. And should probably now name-change.

😞Latent.... did you say anything at the time?

When he was cheating. My gut told me straight away (changed behaviour), but when I asked him, he said no he wasn't he was just unhappy with what a bad wife I was.

I bent over backwards trying to be a better wife for the next two years....

I will not hesitate to cross the road or leave a carriage if I get a gut feel about a man. I don't care how offended he might be, my safety comes first.

I was visiting family 350 miles away from my partner at the time & I just knew my (ex) partner was up to no good.
Getting back I got out the car & spotted a girl I vaguely knew.
I looked at her called her over & asked her straight out if she had slept with him.

Fair play to the girl she admitted it straight away.
Think we were both astonished that I knew.

Hated them both with a passion for years. Now look back & think she did me a favour he was a dog who cheated on her countless times too.

3 or 4 times a week i will pick up my phone at work, and while it is in my hand i will get a text from DW.

at work i don't tend to use my phone very much, so it's not like a law of averages thing.

i wonder whether having been together for so much of our lives (23 years out of 40), we've synchronised to some degree!

Strange man came into my workplace and asked to use the loo. I thought he was up to something but boss let him through. He robbed us.

Friendly older Christian gentleman who everyone in the village thought was a sweetheart but I didn't like tried to sexually assault me.

Friendly person chatting to my mother when we were on holiday. I thought somethings not right and they were trying to pickpocket us.

I know you shouldn't judge a book by its cover but I do seem to form opinions about people very quickly and I am usually right. Taken me years to learn to trust my intuition. I used to have a dog that seemed to take an immediate dislike to certain people (just standoffish - not vicious) and she was always right. My current dog is a daftie though.

"The gift of fear" is an excellent book based on trusting your gut instinct.

Worth googling for the quotes.

"Even when intuition speaks in the clearest terms, even when the message gets through, we may seek an outside opinion before we listen to ourselves"

"Can you imagine an animal reacting to the gift of fear the way some people do.. no animal in the wild suddenly overcome with fear would spend any of its mental energy thinking "it's probably nothing"

"Dating carries several risks, the risk of disappointment, the risk of boredom, the risk of rejection and the risk of letting some troubled scary man into your life".

"No" is a word that must never be negotiated because the person who chooses not to hear it is trying to control you"

"Denial is a save now, pay later scheme".

In my twenties my then bf was coming round for the evening.

I answered the door, be bent down to kiss me, and bubbling up from my belly came the words
“You've been kissing someone else”.
I was shocked at what I said, but not as shocked as him. He stuttered out his confession.
He was summarily dumped that night and i went on to meet my first husband in the next couple of weeks

A friend of mine was walking along with her husband, who was an all round nice guy, great dad, brilliant partner.

They passed a group of people that my friend knew casually, and she said hello to one of them.
The minute she said hello, she was struck by the idea that her husband was sleeping with this woman.
They were away for the weekend, and she couldn't get over this feeling, even though her husband and hosts all got quite angry with her for being so ridiculous.

Anyway, well over a year later she found out that her husband had been and still was having an affair with the person she had suspected.

NC for this post as it's outing as I've told people in RL

Back in 1991, I was married but without DCs and I was working as a secretary. I'd just returned from annual leave and my boss rang me at home and asked if I'd come in early to do some overtime as none of my colleagues wanted to do it (thanks colleagues!) I got the train to Victoria in London. As it was early I hadn't had breakfast. I hesitated on the station, pondering whether to stop there and buy a croissant, or get something from our cafe at work. I had this urge to get something at work and headed straight off. A while later my line manager came running in, in a panic, saying "thank God you're ok". I had no idea what she was on about. Turned out it was the morning the IRA set off a bomb full of shrapnel at Victoria station (and just prior at Paddington station). The bomb had been in a refuse bin....right at the croissant shop, and it killed one person. Had I stopped to buy a croissant, I'd have been there at the exact time the bomb went off and wouldn't be typing this today.

Get to ready for a night out, waiting for DP, his DB And their friend driving home from a football match, we were all going out together including their partners.

An overwhelming feeling of dread filled my body, I ran for my phone to call them: no answer.

I ended up sitting on the front doorstep wrapped in a blanket for two hours, feeling sick every time I heard a car approaching. I rang the other guys partners who told me to relax, they’d be fine.

All 3 of them were killed

I just knew they were dead, I can’t explain how.

Ohyesiam that's incredible. I do think women's spidey senses are more sensitive than most men and we are trained to ignore them. I have an amazing sense of smell. I can smell where DH has been and who has been holding my baby. I can smell something off in the kitchen straight away. But I do have an enormous nose!

There used to be this strange man I saw everyday my dog didn't like. Something in the way he walked just made me feel intimidated by him. Years later I was right. I met someone who knew him and he had beaten up his GF.

Very sorry prinstress

Thank you Signed.

Three lovely men lost leaving behind children, wives, families. The inquest shed no light on the “why”... 11 years on, if someone is even 5 minutes late I’m convinced they’re dead.

Ex cheated on me. All very obvious things like changes in behaviour, putting a password on his laptop, suddenly working out, but he kept coming out with excuses that seemed reasonably plausible. Gut instinct carried on though. I know its frowned on but I hacked his laptop (just spied his password is all, I'm not talking MI5 levels) and found he'd been on dating sites and been messaging women.

Dumped him but stupidly got back with him (gimme a break I was young 😂). I knew every time he did it after then as well. Just a feeling.

My ex told me he was separated, his story was really good and believable. Something didn't sit right with me and I couldn't work it out. So I would ask him now and again and he would swear on his kids life they were separated. She lived with her mother etc.

Something still didn't sit right with me, he would constantly accuse me of cheating on him and I would prove I wasn't.

Then one day it blew up and I got so sick of being accused. I contacted his separated wife to double check if they were separated.

NOPE happily married

Dating - met a guy on OLD was lovely, couldn't see any red flags. I had noticed a girl on his Instagram liking all his pictures but he was 47 and she was 23. So I thought it was a ridiculous idea and my gut was actually paranoia.
Met up a few times DTD! He knew about the above ex and swore he wasn't like that. As soon as he said that my gut was screaming.
A few days later I asked him about this girl he said she was a friends daughter. Later that day I get a message from her. She's been with him 3 years and wanted to know if he was seeing me.

Moral of the story - I now ALWAYS trust my gut.

Many years ago I was walking home through the city I lived in at the time, pushing my then baby ds in his pushchair.

I had to walk through this sort of passageway between the side of a shop and a multistorey carpark, which makes it sound out of the way and deserted but it wasn't, there were a lot of people around as it was much used. I think, from memory, that it is roughly 15-20 ft wide. Not a narrow alley anyhow. Once you get through the other side and walk a short distance there would be a lot fewer people though.

I remember seeing a man standing at one side, leaning against the wall. That wouldn't be anything unusual as there were loos there and payment machines for the parking, people stand around there waiting for other people all the time. There was another stood the other side, slightly further back. This one was looking in the direction I was coming from, people watching. Just before I got to where he was he stood up and walked across to the other side, walking in front of my pushchair. Not anything I'd usually take any notice of and I kept walking for a moment before I felt this feeling I'd never felt before, like pure fear, just a huge, huge adrenaline rush. Something was telling me I was in danger and it was so strong I couldn't ignore it.

I stopped dead and turned around. Those two men, who hadn't looked like they were anything to do with each other were walking purposefully together behind me and I stood still and stared at them, right in the eyes. Part of me was still thinking at this point that I was imagining things and they'd just keep walking past me but no. They stopped and stared back, then one tapped the other on the arm, signalled the other direction with a twitch of his head and they did a 180 and walked off in the direction I'd just come from.

I don't know exactly WHAT my intuition saved me from but I'm pretty sure it saved me from something.

Engaged in my late 20s. Was in the country, yep he had a country gaff having resigned my job to arrange the wedding. He'd gone back to London, I was seeing builders Monday. Builders cancelled. I nearly phoned him but decided not to, something told me not to. My best friend's car was outside. I quietly went in, went to the bedroom and threw her shoes out of the window. Then I left.

In a weekend: no job, no lover, no best friend, no home. My house was let.

Never spoken to her again. He phoned me up and took me out to lunch about 18 months later to tell me he was getting married. Think he's divorced now. Was more than 30 years ago.

Best thing that ever happened to me. He must me 70 now - my DH is 57, more handsome, better behaved and a much better catch.

I love these stories.
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Pretty much all the OLD men I've ever dated prior to the new DP.

Two weeks ago DP had an op. Had a gut instinct that DP was being cut into at about 4.15, which was apparently the time the operation started.

My gut instinct also told me that my Mum had died despite the Hospice informing me that I had to come as she was dying. She'd died at least 2 hours before the phone call.

I love my gut instinct, it's saved me soooo many times!

I’ve learned to trust my gut with bosses. The first one after I graduated seemed really odd but I couldn’t put my finger on why I felt that as she was perfectly polite and professional. Turned out to be a complete horror to work for. Discussions with former colleagues told the same story. I so wish I’d listened to my gut.

Second time was something I could avoid. My nice boss left and I met her replacement at reception before her interview. Really odd feeling that I again dismissed, but she ended up being the most heartless, cold and self-absorbed person I’ve ever met. She took two week’s compassionate leave when her 16 yo dog died (of natural causes) but when the father of my DCs was dying she told me I couldn’t have take personal calls from my DCs as we were divorced.

I’ve since turned down jobs if my gut instinct rails against any potential line-managers at interview.

I have a great boss now and love my job.

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I walked past a friend's house many years ago and knew, from looking at it, that he'd killed himself. I told myself at the time that I shouldn't be so silly, ,and that he'd be around somewhere, but I couldn't shake the feeling. Found out from a mutual friend a few months later that he had, indeed, killed himself. (Pre internet, I rarely had contact with him and wasn't easily able to get in touch with mutual friends either.)

Had a couple of strange incidents with DP. Once when I knew he was coming home two days before he should have been. I also knew he was going to have a dreadful time at a party and, unlike me, told him to be careful as he was leaving. He woke me in floods of tears at 2 in the morning.

Had a very alarming panicky feeling on meeting the dad of one of my DCs friends (the mum is lovely).

No evidence that he's done anything dreadful or anything so it's not quite what you are asking for, but he made the hairs stand up on the back of my neck when he looked at my face and shook my hand. Maybe I'm wrong, but have decided that DC are never going to play at that house without me - we can meet at the park or the kid can come here.