Husbands 1 night stand - it's been 8 weeks and I still think about it everyday

[Riss70]

I found out my husband has a one night stand - things were really at a shitty place in the marriage when it occured but that was for both of us - only one of us was selfish and spinless enough to resort to infidelity - we are attending professional counselling (have only been once as we had a holiday previously booked and have only just returned)
BUT the problem is that I still think about what he has done almost every day WHEN does this invasion of my head space stop - every now and then I just feel like screaming GET OUT LEAVE I CAN"T GET PAST THIS!!!!!

Admittedly he does seem to be trying very hard ot make some changes and being - generally very considerate but these invasive thoguhts are driving me spare

Thanks Hurt

And YES it is husband bashing season

Ws (H and I) just had a little dispuite over his not taking kindly to my indicating that he has wiped out oral sex for the time being (me to him that is) cause I didn't specify HIM when I said I could not bring myself to do it after what he had done grrrrr - Told him that of course I meant him as infidelity OBVIOUSLY goes against my grain!!! He said well you did say me and the way you said it it sound like you meant anyone

Anyway I think that we could become stronger if he can maintain the committment to working on the relationship - he has slackened off in the last week or so but he says that he has been withdrawn as he has been in pain with his lower back (long term problem) and that he is worreid about his father who is 900kms away with a broken leg and lives alone (his partner left him about 3 days before he broke his leg) - he says that he feels like he should be there doing something to help his father but know that he needs to be here so I guess that may be contributing to his slacking off - he is still putting more into the relationship than he was in the months prior to his monumental f*ck up though.

3am - hunt those demons - we can beat them up too lol.... did you try a warm malted milk or perhaps a nice red? I am pleased to hear that you and H have started a new and better relationship...I hope that we can follow that example

I am sure you will love Oz and it is a nice weather at present not too warm or cold. Where I am we have been having an average of 14 degrees celsius of a day time but it gets much cooler of an evening take care and perhaps we can find someway to get in touch whilt you are over here

The trip to oz is a long way off - our friend is on his plane as we speak. He starts a new job on monday and his wife and children are joining him in August.

We are on holiday soon too and when we return i will start to look at flights for austrailia then. It wont be until next july as that is the only time we can get to take the children for a month (as it is summer holidays over here).

well better go now as the house is a tip and i have a friend coming over later.

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